真的是很烦leh。。。她越来越小题大做。。。So bo liao。。。不懂是我没有看到
BIGGGGGGGG PICTUREEEEEEEE。。。很frustrating。。。你叫我act fast的， 当
然我就give watever he 1 loh。。。den 你又说不可以之给juz e figure。。。he
only ask 4 e figure mah。。。自己人， ok loh。。。我send loh。。。sent liao，
你又讲不要send。。。wah lau， wat u 1 me 2 do？？？every small little thing
i run 2 u， u say executive level oredi， u dun employ us 2 listen 2 instructions
only， nd 2 ‘ve initiative。。。do on my own， den u say i never c big
picture， shld go 2 u。。。WTF do u 1？？？更年期到了is it。。。really feel like slapping her left rite centre。。。
Wednesday, October 18, 2006
Thursday, October 12, 2006
海阔天空。。。
正当我觉得生活开始有点无趣时，我surf到了Hubble Telescope 的site。。。又让
我想起第一次看流星时。。。
第一次真正看到流星是在Bintan。。。真的是好漂亮。。。好亮、好长的尾巴。。。
哈哈，nee 还被我们尖叫声给吓到。。。哈哈哈。。。
后来在Aur，一阵停电，满天的星星。。。让我觉得自己好渺小。。。问题也变得没
那么大不了。。。
在Perhentian，要有两个人以上看到才算的流星。。。哈哈哈。。。每次都忘了要
喊“Whaleshark”。。。
有时就是要提醒自己没有什么是不能解决的。。。不要为了一点点东西就斤斤计较。。。
LIFE IS MORE THAN THAT。。。
好想去Bintan。。。好想去Aur。。。好想去Perhentian。。。我们几时去潜水？？？
我想起第一次看流星时。。。
第一次真正看到流星是在Bintan。。。真的是好漂亮。。。好亮、好长的尾巴。。。
哈哈，nee 还被我们尖叫声给吓到。。。哈哈哈。。。
后来在Aur，一阵停电，满天的星星。。。让我觉得自己好渺小。。。问题也变得没
那么大不了。。。
在Perhentian，要有两个人以上看到才算的流星。。。哈哈哈。。。每次都忘了要
喊“Whaleshark”。。。
有时就是要提醒自己没有什么是不能解决的。。。不要为了一点点东西就斤斤计较。。。
LIFE IS MORE THAN THAT。。。
好想去Bintan。。。好想去Aur。。。好想去Perhentian。。。我们几时去潜水？？？
Tuesday, October 03, 2006
grey-ing...
i love watching grey's anatomy...it's really graps me & makes me tink...but it airs on mon at 11pm...which means i can only get 2 bed at 12...
i resisted watching it 4 e last 2 wks..but last nite i decided 2 catch a glimpse...c if it has finished...
again i was griped & it made me tink alot...mayb cos e main character meredith is always caught in a dilemna...sth w i find myself trapped in ever since i'm wif him...1 thing tis show really highlights is tt there is no "right" std 4 falling 4 sme1...
u never know who u fall in love wif...but follow ur heart even though clouds (or haze these days) might cover ur eyes...hurdles abound but really follow ur heart...if u cant hear wat it says, try a bit harder...juz feel where u 1 2 go...there r no rite or wrong...dun tink o e rd u've travelled as a waste o time...cos there r no time wasted in anything...in everything u learn...
u never really know unless u try...dun give up juz becos u dunno e future...continue cos u wldnt know future...
life is ever so vulnerable...juz try 2 do watever it is...cry if u have 2...shout out all e Fs if u nd...life never stops 4 any1...so dun stop becos o fear...wat wld happen if u fail??? wat wld happen if ur choice is wrong??? u juz learn 2 accept it & move on...as long as u dun harm any1 intentionally, there is never gg 2 b a wrong...
i know it's hard 2 believe in tt...& even harder 2 really do it...but take a deep breathe & dive in...hold ur mask...do a giant leap or even a back flip...plunge in & c e bubbles...sign an ok sign...everything will b juz fine...we came bk in 1 pc fr europe didnt we??? our legs felt like they were gg 2 break didnt they??? but in e end they didnt, & we lost a pound or 2 rite??
i resisted watching it 4 e last 2 wks..but last nite i decided 2 catch a glimpse...c if it has finished...
again i was griped & it made me tink alot...mayb cos e main character meredith is always caught in a dilemna...sth w i find myself trapped in ever since i'm wif him...1 thing tis show really highlights is tt there is no "right" std 4 falling 4 sme1...
u never know who u fall in love wif...but follow ur heart even though clouds (or haze these days) might cover ur eyes...hurdles abound but really follow ur heart...if u cant hear wat it says, try a bit harder...juz feel where u 1 2 go...there r no rite or wrong...dun tink o e rd u've travelled as a waste o time...cos there r no time wasted in anything...in everything u learn...
u never really know unless u try...dun give up juz becos u dunno e future...continue cos u wldnt know future...
life is ever so vulnerable...juz try 2 do watever it is...cry if u have 2...shout out all e Fs if u nd...life never stops 4 any1...so dun stop becos o fear...wat wld happen if u fail??? wat wld happen if ur choice is wrong??? u juz learn 2 accept it & move on...as long as u dun harm any1 intentionally, there is never gg 2 b a wrong...
i know it's hard 2 believe in tt...& even harder 2 really do it...but take a deep breathe & dive in...hold ur mask...do a giant leap or even a back flip...plunge in & c e bubbles...sign an ok sign...everything will b juz fine...we came bk in 1 pc fr europe didnt we??? our legs felt like they were gg 2 break didnt they??? but in e end they didnt, & we lost a pound or 2 rite??
Monday, October 02, 2006
wake up ladies & smell e coffee...
STI Oct 2, 2006
Guys who can't commit
If your date admits to being one of them, you would do well to listen
By Girl Talk, Jill Alphonso
A FRIEND of someone I know recently dated a guy who turned out to be a complete jerk.
Some of you more world-weary girls out there might say: So what's new. (Sorry, guys.)
He seemed sweet at first, but went on to blow hot and cold with her in the most extreme ways.
He would take her out and kiss her good-night on one date, and would practically say goodbye with a handshake on the next.
Once, he even took along another girl on their date.
To be fair, he had warned my friend's friend on the first date that he wasn't exactly Prince Charming material.
'You have to be careful with me,' he apparently said. 'I can be a jerk.'
On the second date, he managed to bring this topic up again, adding that he had been called commitment-phobic by his ex-girlfriends.
And he said so again on the third date.
In fact, he seemed to take pride in being Mr Not-So-Nice.
Why did she persist with this useless dude?
Why do women - despite all their academic qualifications and career achievements - persist with guys who are on a different wave-length? You know, the type who clearly signal they want a fun time, not a long time?
Truth is, they overlook this blatantly basic lack of compatibility in the hope that he will be The One.
Women cling to their own expectations of a relationship, no matter what a guy says to them.
Some relationship experts say this is due to a Cinderella complex, aptly described by writer Colette Dowling as 'women... still waiting for something external to transform their lives'.
And that something is often the idea of a perfect relationship in which that figurative white knight appears and sweeps a woman off her feet.
Men, however, tend to be burdened with less on the expectation front - a concept women often seem unable to grasp.
I've been there myself. Guys have told me after the first two weeks of dating that while they liked spending time with me, they weren't ready for a relationship.
Yet because they were still keen on seeing me, I hoped that time spent together having fun would turn into something more.
When those relationships ended, I would find myself resentful.
The turning point came with one particularly upfront boyfriend who told me several times that previous girlfriends had said that he had commitment issues.
He even agreed that he had a problem.
But ever hopeful, I concluded that if he could admit to a commitment problem in the past, perhaps it meant he was now willing to commit to me.
It didn't take a psychic to predict what happened. We broke up six months later because he couldn't commit.
I was angry at first. But eventually I realised he had in fact given me something valuable at the start - honesty, guy-style. No rose-tinted Prince Charming stuff.
And though he told me that I was the kind of girl he wanted to eventually spend the rest of his life with, the fact was that he simply wasn't ready for that at the time.
Breaking up may always be harder for the girl. So many of us continually hope that someone will come along and rescue us - from what, I'm not sure. Perhaps it's because we've been biologically primed over thousands of years to find someone who'll take care of us.
Surviving Mr Commitment-Phobe - and realising there was nothing to beat myself up about - proved empowering.
I am now in a relationship where we are on the same page about where we want it to go - to a happy future.
So much hurt comes from messages being lost in translation and by women refusing to face reality.
It was a painful lesson I learnt. I can only hope that something clicks for my friend's friend on this issue, so that one day, she'll be ready to click with someone who is right for her.
jilla@sph.com.sg
Guys who can't commit
If your date admits to being one of them, you would do well to listen
By Girl Talk, Jill Alphonso
A FRIEND of someone I know recently dated a guy who turned out to be a complete jerk.
Some of you more world-weary girls out there might say: So what's new. (Sorry, guys.)
He seemed sweet at first, but went on to blow hot and cold with her in the most extreme ways.
He would take her out and kiss her good-night on one date, and would practically say goodbye with a handshake on the next.
Once, he even took along another girl on their date.
To be fair, he had warned my friend's friend on the first date that he wasn't exactly Prince Charming material.
'You have to be careful with me,' he apparently said. 'I can be a jerk.'
On the second date, he managed to bring this topic up again, adding that he had been called commitment-phobic by his ex-girlfriends.
And he said so again on the third date.
In fact, he seemed to take pride in being Mr Not-So-Nice.
Why did she persist with this useless dude?
Why do women - despite all their academic qualifications and career achievements - persist with guys who are on a different wave-length? You know, the type who clearly signal they want a fun time, not a long time?
Truth is, they overlook this blatantly basic lack of compatibility in the hope that he will be The One.
Women cling to their own expectations of a relationship, no matter what a guy says to them.
Some relationship experts say this is due to a Cinderella complex, aptly described by writer Colette Dowling as 'women... still waiting for something external to transform their lives'.
And that something is often the idea of a perfect relationship in which that figurative white knight appears and sweeps a woman off her feet.
Men, however, tend to be burdened with less on the expectation front - a concept women often seem unable to grasp.
I've been there myself. Guys have told me after the first two weeks of dating that while they liked spending time with me, they weren't ready for a relationship.
Yet because they were still keen on seeing me, I hoped that time spent together having fun would turn into something more.
When those relationships ended, I would find myself resentful.
The turning point came with one particularly upfront boyfriend who told me several times that previous girlfriends had said that he had commitment issues.
He even agreed that he had a problem.
But ever hopeful, I concluded that if he could admit to a commitment problem in the past, perhaps it meant he was now willing to commit to me.
It didn't take a psychic to predict what happened. We broke up six months later because he couldn't commit.
I was angry at first. But eventually I realised he had in fact given me something valuable at the start - honesty, guy-style. No rose-tinted Prince Charming stuff.
And though he told me that I was the kind of girl he wanted to eventually spend the rest of his life with, the fact was that he simply wasn't ready for that at the time.
Breaking up may always be harder for the girl. So many of us continually hope that someone will come along and rescue us - from what, I'm not sure. Perhaps it's because we've been biologically primed over thousands of years to find someone who'll take care of us.
Surviving Mr Commitment-Phobe - and realising there was nothing to beat myself up about - proved empowering.
I am now in a relationship where we are on the same page about where we want it to go - to a happy future.
So much hurt comes from messages being lost in translation and by women refusing to face reality.
It was a painful lesson I learnt. I can only hope that something clicks for my friend's friend on this issue, so that one day, she'll be ready to click with someone who is right for her.
jilla@sph.com.sg
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