CAPRICORN
22 December – 21 January
WOMEN: Don’t need much foreplay - you go straight from zero to WOW in nothing flat! Not interested in exotic variation; only staying in power. Since you like to dominate, you like to be astride your man, set a rhythm, and please yourself. Once into a rhythm, lovemaking becomes a wild contest with orgasm as the prize and you can depend on getting here more than once. Also a scratcher and screamer. Best sex mates: Taurus, Scorpio and Pisces.
MEN: Sex evokes the best he can offer. He is a planner and a schemer (that is schemer, not a screamer!). Prefers a woman who knows what he enjoys, and he expects her to be willing and ready whenever he wants her. Has the stamina of a marathon runner. Here is the man who will hold off until you are ready to scream! Erogenous zone: a massage that starts at the lower back and gently strokes upward along the sides of his spine.
AQUARIUS
22 January – 21 February
WOMEN: A slow starter, you idealise love and encompass it with tenderness. Once aroused though, anything goes! Extremely imaginative and likes to try new things. There is nothing in any sex manual that you won’t try. Belief that anything that increases the pleasure for your partner is worthwhile. Best sex mates: Aries, Gemini, Libra, Sagittarius and Aquarius. Favourite sex position: standing up, and in water.
MEN: Never treats a woman like a sex object and prefers a variety of foreplay before getting down to it. May have to be revved up, but once his engine is started, he is free and inventive with amazing persistence. He will always see you through to climax. A woman that knows what she wants will be very happy. He usually ensures an orgasm twice - once orally and once genitally. Erogenous zones gently touching the calves and ankles will get him going. Be careful though - a kinky Aquarium can be a sadist who doesn’t like to be denied!
PISCES
22 February – 21 March
WOMEN: Always make the right moves, say the right things, and create the right ambience. You are sexually liberated and enjoy a wide range of eroticism. If his fantasies coincide with yours, the action can really get torrid! You seldom say no to anything your lover suggests! Favourite places: in a waterbed or hot tub. Best sex mates: Cancer, Scorpio, Capricorn, and Pisces.
MEN: Takes the lead in lovemaking and impatient if he doesn’t get a swift response. Indifferent to sexual restrictions, both moral and legal; prefers a partner with a tremendous sexual craving. Likes sex in a chair. He likes to be submissive. Becomes an addict to anything that will give pleasure and release. Erogenous zones: massaging and caressing his feet.
ARIES
22 March – 21 April
WOMEN: Wildly sensual, passionate and adventurous. You’ll >>have sex anywhere, you know what you want - intense and frequent >>sex, you have a need for complete control, but you’re also in love with >>love. As a mate, you are ardent, loyal, sentimental, and earthly. >>Biggest thrill - the tickle of a man’s facial fuzz.>>
>>MEN: Sleeping with him is like playing croquet with live >>bombs you never know what is going to happen! Never expect him to wait >>for you to be ready - he will rip your clothes off if he is ready to >>go. Don’t tease him or you’d better be ready to deliver. Fond of slave >>master games and he likes it rough. Aries men are also explorers, >>so be ready to go where no woman has gone before. His favourite >>position - a woman on her knees leaning forward. >>
TAURUS
22 April – 21 May
WOMEN: You expect your man to be kind and patient and make love to you by the book. Like to be pleased by sex, but don’t look for unusual approaches. But you are a demanding lover and leave your partner breathless. You have a need for oral gratification, both giving and receiving. Best sex mates: Cancer, Sagittarius, Scorpio, and Leo. Most likely kink: sucking on your toes, one by one. You also like biting . . . hmmm!
MEN: He is the ideal lover - sensitive and understanding of his partner’s feelings. He prefers it slow and easy; he won’t be your guide to the exotic unknown, but that he does, he does beautifully. This is the guy to go for long and luxurious oral sex. Stamina? This man could wear down a glacier! His erogenous zone: gently and slowly kiss and bite the back of his neck.
GEMINI
22 May – 21 June
WOMEN: Often the aggressor; you are never embarrassed by your behaviour because you never adhere to any standards except your own. Your main requirement: a lover who knows how to take his time. You are a one woman harem, but a partner should be aware that in a relationship, the Gemini woman is looking for a combination of the spiritual and the physical, the romantic and the practical. You want to talk to the guy after you tumble with him! Best sex mates are Leo, Scorpio, Aquarians, Libra, and Aries. Favourite gadget: the vibrator.
MEN: He likes it with the lights on in front of a mirror. He can work any partner into the mood because he knows exactly how to evoke the right responses. Oral sex isn’t his favourite pastime, but will take his time with the other preliminaries. Tends to be fast and furious, more concerned with satisfying himself than his partner, but he is more than adequate in areas of lovemaking that are often neglected by other men. He can tell a woman exactly what she wants to hear. His erogenous zone: move your lips and tongue lightly up his arm.
CANCER
22 June – 21 July
WOMEN: Will never make the first move, but you can be a marvelous lover for you are capable of intense sensuality. You will reciprocate passion with a fever that will stir his heart and stimulate him to his best performance. On your own time, you have a fondness for masturbation. Your favourite position: lying prone while your man enters you from behind. Best sex mates: Taurus, Leo, Virgo, Scorpio, and Pisces. You may become a slave to sexual pleasure!
MEN: His most surprising technique: intercourse with no hands. He has a need for constant encouragement and if gotten, he will be a delightful swain. Both patient and aggressive, he will often begin somewhere other than bad: likes being in command, and is a master at manual clitoral manipulation! You’ll like the trip as it as much travelling to a place as it is arriving.
LEO
22 July – 22 August
WOMEN: Sleek, lascivious, enticing and lazy! Whatever Leo wants, Leo gets! Intensely responsive and there are bed partners who have scars to prove it. Your need to show off leads you to prefer the top where he can look up and admire the beauty of your body. Best sex mates: Libra, Scorpio, Sagittarius, and Aries. Your sexual wardrobe: full of wispy cutout bras and panties!
MEN: Simply brushes aside rules and conventions. One important rule to remember about him: NEVER tease. His endurance is remarkable and he has a great appetite for making love. He likes women in the submissive position and oral sex is okay when he is on the receiving end. He likes a woman to show how much she is enjoying it. His erogenous zone: his back is particularly vulnerable. Best sex mates: Libra, Scorpio AND Aries.
VIRGO
23 August – 21 September
WOMEN: You have no illusions about sex and wish everyone would stop magnifying its importance. Prefer men who will wait for the relationship to develop to the point where sex is inevitable. You love mutual masturbation and enjoy a little punishment and your grace and modesty is a great turn on. You become an artist at pleasing your lover. Favourite kink: can’t truly enjoy it unless a third party is present. Best sex mates: Gemini, Cancer and Aquarius.
MEN: Too shy to make an overture, but when the moment arrives, you had better be prepared for him to bring his pyjamas, shaving equipment, and toothbrush. He likes to talk about how you like it and having talked about it, he will key in on the right erotic response. Don’t expect imagination, but he is a hard worker and is open to suggestion. His secret life: can be obsessed with pornography. Erogenous zones: his buttocks.
LIBRA
22 September – 21 October
WOMEN: Drama is the key word - you set the stage for sex. Intensely feminine and an instinctive exhibitionist. You feel your body was made to be seen and admired. Feel that seduction is an art, not an assault. When approached the right way, you find it easy to say yes to almost anything. Unusual control of vaginal muscles. Best sex mates: Aries, Gemini, Leo, Scorpio, Sagittarius, and Aquarius. Like any position where your buttocks are exposed.
MEN: Looks for the whole experience, not just a tumble between the sheets. Has a definite kinky side, a voyeur and fond of the ‘menage–a–trois’. He has the patience needed to satisfy. He like women who dress well and have long hair. If a woman’s clothes look as though they are easily removed, he finds her hard to ignore. Erogenous zone: back and buttocks, especially the feel of erect nipples against either of them! Best sex mates: Gemini, Leo, Scorpio.
SCORPIO
22 October – 21 November
WOMEN: Inquisitive, searching and experimental. Knows that eroticism consists of more than the physical act of lovemaking. While looking like a perfect lady in public, you dress and act like a whore in the bedroom. Control of the orgasm is very important and will try anything to help your man maintain his potency. You never take no for an answer and when interested in someone, you will pursue him with determination and guile. Best sex mates: Gemini, Cancer, Scorpio and Pisces. Props you love: scented body oils, flavoured lubricating gels, and vibrators.
MEN: A lustful, sexy animal. Enjoys biting and sucking and is a master of oral sex. Inflicting pain turns him on so he may pinch at nipples or the inside of thighs. Likes it in water, but his kink is that the prefers wooden tables and hard floors to satin and silk. His erogenous zone is his genitalia. Best sex mates: Gemini, Cancer, Scorpio and Pisces.
SAGITTARIUS
22 November – 21 December
WOMEN: You like the outdoors - freaking out if you are in a tent, camper, or on the beach. You enjoy sex, but you don’t like to prolong the preliminaries and want to start the main show as soon as possible. Like to tease your partner to the point of losing control. You don’t mind if your partner comes too quickly – you are a generous and accepting lover. Best sex mates: Leo, Libra, and Aquarius. Your sexual wardrobe will consist of accessories - gloves and shoes!
MEN: Sex is rarely an intense experience with him - he often comes too quickly, but he’ll be the first to try a new position. He is the master of erotic massage - both oral and manual. His tongue can be a wicked instrument and when combined with his lips, creates an explosive effect! Erogenous zones: hips and thighs. And he likes to look at a woman’s calves and thighs, and likes to have sex with a woman in stockings. Best sex mates: Leo, Libra, and Aquarius
Wednesday, June 15, 2005
Tuesday, June 14, 2005
3个月的时间。。。
本来是想让他写下他的感受。。。他却写了他所认为的“我的感受”。。。
BLACK IS WAT I WROTE， BLUE IS WAT HE WROTE。。。
3月11日。。。第一次的见面。。。只知道他叫HN。。。是我们的 TRAINING ASSISTANT 普普通通的青少年。。。没有多大的映象。。。不过他教课很认真(好COOL！) HEHE。。。3 月13日。。。在岛上玩的很开心，认识了陶吉吉和BAD HAHAHA。。。我们从PULAU AUR 回来。。。在船上拍了许多的照片。。。在CUSTOMS 聊了聊天多了解对方的来源。。。在FONG SENG 吃了PRATA, 喝了TEH 我们坐着面对面聊了一些。。。我顺路载他一程。。。在德士里两人又聊了起来。。。他问我是从事什么行业。。。我快速简短的回答他。。。3月14日。。。电话响，第一次收到他的 SMS 。。。很好奇当时并不知道那是他传来的简讯。。。渐渐地开始对方通简讯。。。他的简讯有点不一样，给了我一种不一样的感觉(有一种甜甜的滋味)。。。只是好玩却开始了一段美好的路程，一段甜蜜的恋情。。。忘了是什么时候，应该是在 BINTAN 之前，他第一次打电话 MORNING CALL 我 (YOU SOUNDED SO SLEEPY REALLY WOKE UP？？？HEHEHE。。DIDN’T SPEAK MUCH， JUZ A GOOD MORNING。。。) 她们很鼓励我，很支持我。。。叫我勇敢的去接收和尝试。。。不怕爱错，只怕没爱过。。。叫我 FELLOW MY HEART。。。4月9日。。。他主动约我，我答应了。。。我们就这样开始了第一次的约会。。。我担心我们没话题谈。。。不过看了电影两人进展的不错。。。我很主动得牵了他的手。。。我们握的很紧因为很冷。。。他好害羞。。。戏完了，他不敢牵我的手。。。又是我主动。。。他的脸有点红。。。我们第一次在 MOS BURGER 吃晚餐。。。他第一次送我回家。。。他第一次轻轻地吻了我。。。真开心。。。4月10日。。。TKD GRADING。。。我好紧张。。。他陪我到 TPY STADIUM。。。以为他走了，原来他在观众席上(默默地观察我，给我精神上的鼓励)。。。他第一次说了那三个字。。。他向我表白了。。。我第一次心跳停了至少两秒。。。“DO YOU HAVE ANYTHING TO SAY TO ME？？？”。。。“I REALLY DUNNO HOW 2 REACT 2 TT STATEMENT。。。I’M FEELING SWEET BUT NUMB ALL IN MY HEAD。。。”4月15日。。。第二次约会。。。我们约了一起 GROCERY SHOPPING 4 MY TKD PICNIC。。。我们第一次坐下好好地谈。。。4月16日。。。第一次坐他的车。。。第一次MEET 他的 FRIENDS。。。第一次在 KENT RIDGE PARK 困了睡在他的怀里。。。好甜。。。好浪漫。。。4月17日。。。我们一起度过了一个温馨的下午，在 WEST COAST PICNIC。。。在 MOUNT FABER 一起赏夜景。。。4月25日他第一次接我下班。。。我们一起到 FORT CANNING PARK 散步。。。在河畔一起飞上天空。。。好好玩！！！4月26日。。。一起 ROCKCLIMB，一起吃SUPPER。。。4月13/20日送我去TKD。。。4月21日。。。送我到 PILATES。。。4月29日。。。他想见我穿 DRESS 的样子。。。我第一次到他家。。。4 月30日。。。我们第一次骑脚车。。。第一次一起看到流星。。。5月1日。。。第一次看日出。。。一起经历了酸甜苦辣。。。5月2日。。。第一次亲手做了早餐给他。。。5月3日。。。我们第一次吵架。。。5月6日。。。提早“庆祝” 我们的第一个月。。。
6月9日。。。我们的第2个月。。。
BLACK IS WAT I WROTE， BLUE IS WAT HE WROTE。。。
3月11日。。。第一次的见面。。。只知道他叫HN。。。是我们的 TRAINING ASSISTANT 普普通通的青少年。。。没有多大的映象。。。不过他教课很认真(好COOL！) HEHE。。。3 月13日。。。在岛上玩的很开心，认识了陶吉吉和BAD HAHAHA。。。我们从PULAU AUR 回来。。。在船上拍了许多的照片。。。在CUSTOMS 聊了聊天多了解对方的来源。。。在FONG SENG 吃了PRATA, 喝了TEH 我们坐着面对面聊了一些。。。我顺路载他一程。。。在德士里两人又聊了起来。。。他问我是从事什么行业。。。我快速简短的回答他。。。3月14日。。。电话响，第一次收到他的 SMS 。。。很好奇当时并不知道那是他传来的简讯。。。渐渐地开始对方通简讯。。。他的简讯有点不一样，给了我一种不一样的感觉(有一种甜甜的滋味)。。。只是好玩却开始了一段美好的路程，一段甜蜜的恋情。。。忘了是什么时候，应该是在 BINTAN 之前，他第一次打电话 MORNING CALL 我 (YOU SOUNDED SO SLEEPY REALLY WOKE UP？？？HEHEHE。。DIDN’T SPEAK MUCH， JUZ A GOOD MORNING。。。) 她们很鼓励我，很支持我。。。叫我勇敢的去接收和尝试。。。不怕爱错，只怕没爱过。。。叫我 FELLOW MY HEART。。。4月9日。。。他主动约我，我答应了。。。我们就这样开始了第一次的约会。。。我担心我们没话题谈。。。不过看了电影两人进展的不错。。。我很主动得牵了他的手。。。我们握的很紧因为很冷。。。他好害羞。。。戏完了，他不敢牵我的手。。。又是我主动。。。他的脸有点红。。。我们第一次在 MOS BURGER 吃晚餐。。。他第一次送我回家。。。他第一次轻轻地吻了我。。。真开心。。。4月10日。。。TKD GRADING。。。我好紧张。。。他陪我到 TPY STADIUM。。。以为他走了，原来他在观众席上(默默地观察我，给我精神上的鼓励)。。。他第一次说了那三个字。。。他向我表白了。。。我第一次心跳停了至少两秒。。。“DO YOU HAVE ANYTHING TO SAY TO ME？？？”。。。“I REALLY DUNNO HOW 2 REACT 2 TT STATEMENT。。。I’M FEELING SWEET BUT NUMB ALL IN MY HEAD。。。”4月15日。。。第二次约会。。。我们约了一起 GROCERY SHOPPING 4 MY TKD PICNIC。。。我们第一次坐下好好地谈。。。4月16日。。。第一次坐他的车。。。第一次MEET 他的 FRIENDS。。。第一次在 KENT RIDGE PARK 困了睡在他的怀里。。。好甜。。。好浪漫。。。4月17日。。。我们一起度过了一个温馨的下午，在 WEST COAST PICNIC。。。在 MOUNT FABER 一起赏夜景。。。4月25日他第一次接我下班。。。我们一起到 FORT CANNING PARK 散步。。。在河畔一起飞上天空。。。好好玩！！！4月26日。。。一起 ROCKCLIMB，一起吃SUPPER。。。4月13/20日送我去TKD。。。4月21日。。。送我到 PILATES。。。4月29日。。。他想见我穿 DRESS 的样子。。。我第一次到他家。。。4 月30日。。。我们第一次骑脚车。。。第一次一起看到流星。。。5月1日。。。第一次看日出。。。一起经历了酸甜苦辣。。。5月2日。。。第一次亲手做了早餐给他。。。5月3日。。。我们第一次吵架。。。5月6日。。。提早“庆祝” 我们的第一个月。。。
6月9日。。。我们的第2个月。。。
高高在上。。。
义顺SAFRA 的NATIONAL ROCKCLIMBING CENTRE， 好好玩！！！ 下次再去！！！
第一面墙只攀到一半。。。那个 BULGING 真的不容易！！！不过秋千很不赖， 攀上！！！那个帮我们 “MARI KITA”那个ROPE 的人还拿了他很 PRO 的CAMERA 想拍秋千的英姿，因为他说他都爬不上。。。可是他应该没有拍到因为听到他跟朋友说他的手在抖。。。HAHAHAHA。。。而他刚攀的还不是很难的。。HAHHAHAHA。。。秋千不愧是攀岩高手！！！
攀到上面真的是不错的感觉。。。不止是越过重重难关，考验体力和耐力；到了上面有种自由自在的感觉。。。只听到风的声音，和自己那急促的呼吸声。。。很不错的感觉。。。
还没开始之前还真的有点忐忑不安。。。不过 ALL IS WELL。。。HAHHAHHA。。。LOOKING FWD TO E NX CLIMB！！！ CAN HARDLY WAIT。。。
第一面墙只攀到一半。。。那个 BULGING 真的不容易！！！不过秋千很不赖， 攀上！！！那个帮我们 “MARI KITA”那个ROPE 的人还拿了他很 PRO 的CAMERA 想拍秋千的英姿，因为他说他都爬不上。。。可是他应该没有拍到因为听到他跟朋友说他的手在抖。。。HAHAHAHA。。。而他刚攀的还不是很难的。。HAHHAHAHA。。。秋千不愧是攀岩高手！！！
攀到上面真的是不错的感觉。。。不止是越过重重难关，考验体力和耐力；到了上面有种自由自在的感觉。。。只听到风的声音，和自己那急促的呼吸声。。。很不错的感觉。。。
还没开始之前还真的有点忐忑不安。。。不过 ALL IS WELL。。。HAHHAHHA。。。LOOKING FWD TO E NX CLIMB！！！ CAN HARDLY WAIT。。。
Monday, June 13, 2005
Desaru....
读了TCC 和 NEE 的 BLOG ON 她们第2次到 DESARU 的TRIP。。。想起了我们的 1ST TIME。。。还真的很怀念那个 EXPERIENCE。。。有点想再骑脚车。。。可是又很怕。。。矛盾的心情。。。让那美好的回忆停留在脑海里吧。。。
爱哭包
6月11日。。。他把我弄哭了。。。我哭得好丑。。。MASCARA 都掉了。。。我也不知道为什么我会哭。。。
他刚刚打扫房间，正要去洗鞋，我便在房间等他。。。他抵给我他的“HOMEWORK” (我给他的 BLOG ENTRY HOMEWORK)。。。他也拿了他的JOURNAL给我，他一直都想让我读。。。他洗完鞋，便去洗澡，而我在房间读他所写的。。。
读着读，忆起我们之间所发生的一切。。。在他进房之前我刚好读到：“DUNNO WHETHER TIS IS LOVE。。。DUNNO IF IT WILL LAST。。。” 他坐在我的旁边跟我说话 (我忘了说什么)，接着说了：“DEAR DEAR HUG HUG。。。”我抱着他。。。他又不知道说了什么。。。我哭了。。。想忍着。。。可是就是控制不住。。。眼泪开始流。。。我紧紧的抱着他。。。不停的哭。。。
“DEAR WAT’S WRONG？？？” “DEAR DUN CRY。。” I JUZ SHOOK MY HEAD。。。& WENT ON & ON CRYING。。。他只好抱着我。。。
哭了大概有十分钟吧。。。MAKEUP 全都给我哭掉了！！！他抵给我TISSUE。。。哎哟真的哭到丑死了。。。 停了停， 不知不觉又哭。。。从头到尾大概哭了30MINS。。。真的不知道我哭什么。。。
我真的越来越象爱哭包了。。。
可能是THUR 遗留下的EMOTIONS 吧。。。那天没有哭。。。
可能是因为这段时间说长不长，说短不短。。。我和他一开始就没有想过到底会怎样，也曾经有过丝丝的怀疑。。。可是这段过程我过得很开心。。。没有想过会是这样。。。真的不希望看到它的结束。。。很不想想。。。很难做出任何的保证，其实根本没有保证。。。NOTHING IS DEFINITE IN TIS WORLD ANYWAY。。。真的不知道是开心还是伤心。。。希望是前者吧。。。
他刚刚打扫房间，正要去洗鞋，我便在房间等他。。。他抵给我他的“HOMEWORK” (我给他的 BLOG ENTRY HOMEWORK)。。。他也拿了他的JOURNAL给我，他一直都想让我读。。。他洗完鞋，便去洗澡，而我在房间读他所写的。。。
读着读，忆起我们之间所发生的一切。。。在他进房之前我刚好读到：“DUNNO WHETHER TIS IS LOVE。。。DUNNO IF IT WILL LAST。。。” 他坐在我的旁边跟我说话 (我忘了说什么)，接着说了：“DEAR DEAR HUG HUG。。。”我抱着他。。。他又不知道说了什么。。。我哭了。。。想忍着。。。可是就是控制不住。。。眼泪开始流。。。我紧紧的抱着他。。。不停的哭。。。
“DEAR WAT’S WRONG？？？” “DEAR DUN CRY。。” I JUZ SHOOK MY HEAD。。。& WENT ON & ON CRYING。。。他只好抱着我。。。
哭了大概有十分钟吧。。。MAKEUP 全都给我哭掉了！！！他抵给我TISSUE。。。哎哟真的哭到丑死了。。。 停了停， 不知不觉又哭。。。从头到尾大概哭了30MINS。。。真的不知道我哭什么。。。
我真的越来越象爱哭包了。。。
可能是THUR 遗留下的EMOTIONS 吧。。。那天没有哭。。。
可能是因为这段时间说长不长，说短不短。。。我和他一开始就没有想过到底会怎样，也曾经有过丝丝的怀疑。。。可是这段过程我过得很开心。。。没有想过会是这样。。。真的不希望看到它的结束。。。很不想想。。。很难做出任何的保证，其实根本没有保证。。。NOTHING IS DEFINITE IN TIS WORLD ANYWAY。。。真的不知道是开心还是伤心。。。希望是前者吧。。。
Friday, June 10, 2005
get well.......
shit shit shit....i'm sick!!!!!!flu!!!!!!! pls recover soon.....i'm gg diving.....i dun 1 2 miss it pls....recover pls!!!!!
很有收获的一天。。。
昨天我们一起度过我们的2个月。。。本来我想去游个泳然后才去 PILATES。。。约了去 JP 吃晚餐然后就去上课。。。在 JP走来走去不知吃什么终于决定吃 BILLY BOMBERS。。。坐下后，他神神秘秘地。。。原来他买了礼物。。。他亲手包了那份礼物。。。还有一封信。。。我问他能否拆开礼物。。。“信回家看，礼物可以”。。我一面仔细地把 SCOTCH TAPE 撕掉，一面猜他买了什么。。。摇了摇那盒子。。。重重的。。。半透明的黄色包装纸隐约看到蓝色的盒子。。。*LIGHTBULB LIGHTS UP*。。。“IT MUST BE THAT TURTLE DISPLAY FROM THE CELEBRATE THE SEA！！！”。。。我猜对了！！！HEHEHE。。。“HOW U KNOW？？？”。。。
was at e celebrate e sea exhibition wif him tt day when we saw tt display...but i told him not 2 buy it cos it was 4 display only & i didn't 1 him 2 waste money juz cos i tot it was beautiful...he didn't buy it den...i left 4 sign lang after tt & went bk 2 e exhibition wif swing & tcc tt same day after e class...i 1ed 2 show e gals e display but when i went bk, e display was no longer there, in it's place was e other display o e sharks which i tot was not as beautiful as e turtles...i didn't ask e boss but i had a sort o 6th sense tt he might 've bot it...
thk u dear....
常常都会拿冰射他。。。昨天也不例外。。。可是我调皮了一点。。。拿了一块冰放进他的衣服里 =p。。。冰从颈滑到腰。。。他把冰拿出来，想报复，怕我有防备，便放进裤袋里，以为我没看见。。。我升手抢了冰，很快地，丢进了他的裤子里。。。HAHHAHAA。。。笑到ABS 都CRAMP！！！他还得去TOILET拿出来。。。HAHHAHHA。。。
i had potato salad at billy bombers...was really 2 full...was a little late & it was raining also...& i haven had enough fun yet...so decided 2 4go pilates class...
走累了。。。他说想坐下聊聊天。。。于是便到了我家附近的BENCH 聊。。。我们谈了一个多小时吧。。。很高兴。。。我们谈了很多。。。不知道你知不知道。。。我哭了。。。我抱着你不放因为我不想你看到。。。我很感动。。。你的那段话很窝心。。。我现在忘了你所说的EXACT WORDS。。。只记得那个感觉。。。谢谢你。。。
回到家，冲好凉。。。拿了那封信。。。4张纸。。。他的字很可爱。。。很象小孩子的字。。。他的 SPACING 也很大。。。他用很简单的英文和华文。。。可是却表达了很多很多。。。我又不禁地哭了。。。
很有收获的一天。。。
was at e celebrate e sea exhibition wif him tt day when we saw tt display...but i told him not 2 buy it cos it was 4 display only & i didn't 1 him 2 waste money juz cos i tot it was beautiful...he didn't buy it den...i left 4 sign lang after tt & went bk 2 e exhibition wif swing & tcc tt same day after e class...i 1ed 2 show e gals e display but when i went bk, e display was no longer there, in it's place was e other display o e sharks which i tot was not as beautiful as e turtles...i didn't ask e boss but i had a sort o 6th sense tt he might 've bot it...
thk u dear....
常常都会拿冰射他。。。昨天也不例外。。。可是我调皮了一点。。。拿了一块冰放进他的衣服里 =p。。。冰从颈滑到腰。。。他把冰拿出来，想报复，怕我有防备，便放进裤袋里，以为我没看见。。。我升手抢了冰，很快地，丢进了他的裤子里。。。HAHHAHAA。。。笑到ABS 都CRAMP！！！他还得去TOILET拿出来。。。HAHHAHHA。。。
i had potato salad at billy bombers...was really 2 full...was a little late & it was raining also...& i haven had enough fun yet...so decided 2 4go pilates class...
走累了。。。他说想坐下聊聊天。。。于是便到了我家附近的BENCH 聊。。。我们谈了一个多小时吧。。。很高兴。。。我们谈了很多。。。不知道你知不知道。。。我哭了。。。我抱着你不放因为我不想你看到。。。我很感动。。。你的那段话很窝心。。。我现在忘了你所说的EXACT WORDS。。。只记得那个感觉。。。谢谢你。。。
回到家，冲好凉。。。拿了那封信。。。4张纸。。。他的字很可爱。。。很象小孩子的字。。。他的 SPACING 也很大。。。他用很简单的英文和华文。。。可是却表达了很多很多。。。我又不禁地哭了。。。
很有收获的一天。。。
Thursday, June 09, 2005
第2个月。。。
6月9日。。。我们的第2个月。。。写了短短的 BLOG ENTRY。。。不过想特别一点。。。想让他做 GUEST BLOGGER，在我写的 ENTRY 写上他的看法才 POST。。。。
Friday, June 03, 2005
carebear & crocodile....
another 10mins 2 go b4 offwork....dun 1 2 start anything...brain a bit dead after a full day o work....
ytd had a long chat....interesting topics tt we talked abt....
carebear....hahhhaa....crocodile....hahahaha....
anyway i'm 2 stoned 2 write anything.....haahhahaa
really had a gd workout o my abs wif all tt laughing last nite!!!
ytd had a long chat....interesting topics tt we talked abt....
carebear....hahhhaa....crocodile....hahahaha....
anyway i'm 2 stoned 2 write anything.....haahhahaa
really had a gd workout o my abs wif all tt laughing last nite!!!
work update....
yes finally completed my minutes & my LADDER's questionnaire!!! yeah!!!!
now on 2 my CSEW questionnaire............
now on 2 my CSEW questionnaire............
Birthday Colors.....
Fr my colic CY....
> >Birthday -> Colour -> Nature> >> >
If your birthday is on ..... Scroll down to find out about your nature ....
> >> >December 23rd - January 1st Red
> >> >January 2nd - January 11th Orange
> >> >January 12th - January 24th Yellow
> >> >January 25th - February 3 Pink
> >> >February 4th - February 8th Blue
> >> >February 9th - February 18th Green
> >> >February 19th - February 28th Brown
> >> >March1st - Match 10th Aqua
> >> >March 11 - March 20th Lime
> >> >March 21 st Black
> >> >March 22 nd - March 31st Purple
> >> >April 1st - April 10th Navy
> >> >April 11th - April 20th Silver
> >> >April 21st - April 30th White
> >> >May 2nd - May 14th Blue
> >> >May 15th - May 24th Gold
> >> >May 25th - June 3rd Cream
> >> >June 4th - June13th Gray
> >> >June 14 - June 23rd Maroon
> >> >June 24th Gray
> >> >June 25 - July 4th Red
> >> >July 5th - July 14th Orange
> >> >July 15th - July 25 th Yellow
> >> >July 26th - August 4 th Pink
> >> >August 5th - August 13th Blue
> >> >August 14th - August 23rd Green
> >> >August 24 - September 2nd Brown
> >> >September 3rd - September12th Aqua
> >> >September 13th - September 22nd Lime
> >> >September 23rd Olive
> >> >September 24th - October 3rd Purple
> >> >October 4th - October 13th Nave
> >> >October 14th - October 23rd Silver
> >> >October 24 - November 11th White
> >> >November 12th - November 21st Gold
> >> >November 22nd - December1st Cream
> >> >December 2nd - December11th Gray
> >> >December 12th - December 21st Maroon
> >> >December 22nd Teal
RED
Cute and lovable type, you are picky but always in love ...and liked to be loved. Fresh and cheerful, but can be "moody" at times. Capable with people, nice, soft, and that can love you for the way you are. Likes people that are easy to talk to, and can make you feel comfortable.
CREAM
Competitive and sportive. Don't like losing and always cheerful! You are trustworthy, and very out-going. You choose love carefully, and don't fall in love easily. But once you find the right one, you don't let go for a long long time.
TEAL
You are mostly interested in your looks. And have high standards in picking love. You think and make a solution precisely, and hardly make stupid mistakes. You like to lead, and is easy for you to make new friends.
GREY
You are attractive, and active. You never hide your feelings, and express everything that's inside. But can be selfish at times. You want to be noticed, and don't like to be treated unequally. You can brighten up people's day. You know what to say at the right time, and you have a good sense of humor.
GREEN
You get along well with new people. You are not really a shy person, but sometimes you can hurt people's feelings by your words... You like to be loved and noticed by your lover, but mostly you are single, waiting for the right person.
GOLD
You know what's right and what's wrong. You are cheerful and out going. It's hard for you to find the one you want, but once you find the right person, you won't be able to fall in love again for a long time.
PINK
You are always trying your best in everything, and like to help and care for other people. But you are not easily satisfied. You have negative thoughts, and you look for romantic love like in a fairytale.
YELLOW
You are sweet and innocent. Trusted by many people, and have a strong leadership towards relationships. You make good decision and make the right choice at the right time. And always dreaming of romantic relationship.
MAROON
You are intelligent, and know what's right. You like to take things go your way, which can sometimes cause trouble or not thinking about other people's feelings. But you are patient when it comes to love... Once you get a hold of the right person, it's hard for you to find a better love.
ORANGE
You are responsible for your own actions, and you know how to treat people. You always have goals to reach, and are competitive. When it comes to friendship, you find it hard to trust someone, but once you find the right friend, you trust them for ever.
PURPLE
You are mysterious, never selfish and get interested in things easily. Your day can be sad or happy depending on your mood. You are popular between friends but you can act stupid at times, and forget things easily. You go for person that's trustworthy.
LIME
You are calm, but easily stressed out. You get jealous easily, and complain over little things. You can't get stuck into one thing, but you have a capable personality for everyone to trust you and like you.
SILVER
You are imaginative and shy, but you like trying new things. You like to challenge yourself. You learn things easily, and like "Hard to get".Your love life is normally hard and confusing.
WHITE
You dream and have goals in your life. You get jealous easily and you don't react to things easily. You are different and sometimes thought highly by others.
OLIVE
You are warm and light hearted. You seem to flow well with friends and family. You don't like violence and know what's right. You are kind and cheerful, but don't envy other people easily.
BROW
You are active and sportive. It's hard for other people to become closewith you, but you fall in love easily. But once you find out you can't get something, you give up and let go easily as well.
BLUE
You have low self-esteem, and very picky. You are artistic and like to fall in love, but you let your love pass by, by loving with your mind, not your heart.
NAVY
You are attractive, and love your life. You have a strong feeling towards everything. And very easily distracted. Once you get angry at someone, it's hard for you to forgive them.
AQUA
Your feelings change suddenly and easily. You are always lonely, and like travelling. You are truthful, but listen and believe other people too easily. It's hard to find love for you, and you get lost in love easily. Sometimes you get hurt by love.
BLACK
You are challenging, and have the "guts". But you don't like changes in your life. And once you make a decision, you keep it that way for a long time. Your love life is also challenging, and different.
> >Birthday -> Colour -> Nature> >> >
If your birthday is on ..... Scroll down to find out about your nature ....
> >> >December 23rd - January 1st Red
> >> >January 2nd - January 11th Orange
> >> >January 12th - January 24th Yellow
> >> >January 25th - February 3 Pink
> >> >February 4th - February 8th Blue
> >> >February 9th - February 18th Green
> >> >February 19th - February 28th Brown
> >> >March1st - Match 10th Aqua
> >> >March 11 - March 20th Lime
> >> >March 21 st Black
> >> >March 22 nd - March 31st Purple
> >> >April 1st - April 10th Navy
> >> >April 11th - April 20th Silver
> >> >April 21st - April 30th White
> >> >May 2nd - May 14th Blue
> >> >May 15th - May 24th Gold
> >> >May 25th - June 3rd Cream
> >> >June 4th - June13th Gray
> >> >June 14 - June 23rd Maroon
> >> >June 24th Gray
> >> >June 25 - July 4th Red
> >> >July 5th - July 14th Orange
> >> >July 15th - July 25 th Yellow
> >> >July 26th - August 4 th Pink
> >> >August 5th - August 13th Blue
> >> >August 14th - August 23rd Green
> >> >August 24 - September 2nd Brown
> >> >September 3rd - September12th Aqua
> >> >September 13th - September 22nd Lime
> >> >September 23rd Olive
> >> >September 24th - October 3rd Purple
> >> >October 4th - October 13th Nave
> >> >October 14th - October 23rd Silver
> >> >October 24 - November 11th White
> >> >November 12th - November 21st Gold
> >> >November 22nd - December1st Cream
> >> >December 2nd - December11th Gray
> >> >December 12th - December 21st Maroon
> >> >December 22nd Teal
RED
Cute and lovable type, you are picky but always in love ...and liked to be loved. Fresh and cheerful, but can be "moody" at times. Capable with people, nice, soft, and that can love you for the way you are. Likes people that are easy to talk to, and can make you feel comfortable.
CREAM
Competitive and sportive. Don't like losing and always cheerful! You are trustworthy, and very out-going. You choose love carefully, and don't fall in love easily. But once you find the right one, you don't let go for a long long time.
TEAL
You are mostly interested in your looks. And have high standards in picking love. You think and make a solution precisely, and hardly make stupid mistakes. You like to lead, and is easy for you to make new friends.
GREY
You are attractive, and active. You never hide your feelings, and express everything that's inside. But can be selfish at times. You want to be noticed, and don't like to be treated unequally. You can brighten up people's day. You know what to say at the right time, and you have a good sense of humor.
GREEN
You get along well with new people. You are not really a shy person, but sometimes you can hurt people's feelings by your words... You like to be loved and noticed by your lover, but mostly you are single, waiting for the right person.
GOLD
You know what's right and what's wrong. You are cheerful and out going. It's hard for you to find the one you want, but once you find the right person, you won't be able to fall in love again for a long time.
PINK
You are always trying your best in everything, and like to help and care for other people. But you are not easily satisfied. You have negative thoughts, and you look for romantic love like in a fairytale.
YELLOW
You are sweet and innocent. Trusted by many people, and have a strong leadership towards relationships. You make good decision and make the right choice at the right time. And always dreaming of romantic relationship.
MAROON
You are intelligent, and know what's right. You like to take things go your way, which can sometimes cause trouble or not thinking about other people's feelings. But you are patient when it comes to love... Once you get a hold of the right person, it's hard for you to find a better love.
ORANGE
You are responsible for your own actions, and you know how to treat people. You always have goals to reach, and are competitive. When it comes to friendship, you find it hard to trust someone, but once you find the right friend, you trust them for ever.
PURPLE
You are mysterious, never selfish and get interested in things easily. Your day can be sad or happy depending on your mood. You are popular between friends but you can act stupid at times, and forget things easily. You go for person that's trustworthy.
LIME
You are calm, but easily stressed out. You get jealous easily, and complain over little things. You can't get stuck into one thing, but you have a capable personality for everyone to trust you and like you.
SILVER
You are imaginative and shy, but you like trying new things. You like to challenge yourself. You learn things easily, and like "Hard to get".Your love life is normally hard and confusing.
WHITE
You dream and have goals in your life. You get jealous easily and you don't react to things easily. You are different and sometimes thought highly by others.
OLIVE
You are warm and light hearted. You seem to flow well with friends and family. You don't like violence and know what's right. You are kind and cheerful, but don't envy other people easily.
BROW
You are active and sportive. It's hard for other people to become closewith you, but you fall in love easily. But once you find out you can't get something, you give up and let go easily as well.
BLUE
You have low self-esteem, and very picky. You are artistic and like to fall in love, but you let your love pass by, by loving with your mind, not your heart.
NAVY
You are attractive, and love your life. You have a strong feeling towards everything. And very easily distracted. Once you get angry at someone, it's hard for you to forgive them.
AQUA
Your feelings change suddenly and easily. You are always lonely, and like travelling. You are truthful, but listen and believe other people too easily. It's hard to find love for you, and you get lost in love easily. Sometimes you get hurt by love.
BLACK
You are challenging, and have the "guts". But you don't like changes in your life. And once you make a decision, you keep it that way for a long time. Your love life is also challenging, and different.
Wednesday, June 01, 2005
skydive & love....
great analogy...
minutes writing....questionnaire.... says:
smetimes it juz feels weird 2 me cos we've only been 2gather 4 less den 2 mths....
minutes writing....questionnaire.... says:
i dun believe wat i'm feeling...
You don't pay me enough for me not to gossip about you. says:
the typical graph is accelerating at first one.. dats honeymoon period. but it will grow more gradual n sometimes plunge after awhile. so, the art is how to keep it constantly growing. n not stagnant too.
You don't pay me enough for me not to gossip about you. says:
try to believe it. but also try to anticipate that this wun be the case forever. hehe
minutes writing....questionnaire.... says:
tt's wat every1 says...
minutes writing....questionnaire.... says:
tt's wat i'm afraid o also...
You don't pay me enough for me not to gossip about you. says:
why b afraid?
minutes writing....questionnaire.... says:
cos u dun 1 2 lose tt feeling...
You don't pay me enough for me not to gossip about you. says:
since u already know it WILL come. hee..
minutes writing....questionnaire.... says:
it's juz like doing skydiving...
minutes writing....questionnaire.... says:
e journey up is full o anticipation...
minutes writing....questionnaire.... says:
e 1st plunge take extreme courage
minutes writing....questionnaire.... says:
den u feel e free-fall...
You don't pay me enough for me not to gossip about you. says:
haa.. cool!
minutes writing....questionnaire.... says:
short but sweet
minutes writing....questionnaire.... says:
den it's e parachute
minutes writing....questionnaire.... says:
smooth & stable...
minutes writing....questionnaire.... says:
den it's down 2 earth....
minutes writing....questionnaire.... says:
& e whole thing ends....
minutes writing....questionnaire.... says:
if u r not careful, u land on hard grd or even in danger....
minutes writing....questionnaire.... says:
u know eventually u r gg 2 land....
You don't pay me enough for me not to gossip about you. says:
if u are too careful, u forget to enjoy the scenery in mid air.
minutes writing....questionnaire.... says:
tt's true...
minutes writing....questionnaire.... says:
but how 2 steer is really an art...
You don't pay me enough for me not to gossip about you. says:
of cos... no one tells u exactly what to do..
minutes writing....questionnaire.... says:
precisely....
You don't pay me enough for me not to gossip about you. says:
but well, give it ur best, with trust n respect for another person's differences, it makes it easier to steer.
minutes writing....questionnaire.... says:
cos there's e wind & all e other factors which interfere wif e whole precess...
You don't pay me enough for me not to gossip about you. says:
enjoy the ride.. n tok to u soon!
i'm getting gd at analogies.... says:
yes!
You don't pay me enough for me not to gossip about you. says:
yesh.. gettin damn good. haa.. byee
minutes writing....questionnaire.... says:
smetimes it juz feels weird 2 me cos we've only been 2gather 4 less den 2 mths....
minutes writing....questionnaire.... says:
i dun believe wat i'm feeling...
You don't pay me enough for me not to gossip about you. says:
the typical graph is accelerating at first one.. dats honeymoon period. but it will grow more gradual n sometimes plunge after awhile. so, the art is how to keep it constantly growing. n not stagnant too.
You don't pay me enough for me not to gossip about you. says:
try to believe it. but also try to anticipate that this wun be the case forever. hehe
minutes writing....questionnaire.... says:
tt's wat every1 says...
minutes writing....questionnaire.... says:
tt's wat i'm afraid o also...
You don't pay me enough for me not to gossip about you. says:
why b afraid?
minutes writing....questionnaire.... says:
cos u dun 1 2 lose tt feeling...
You don't pay me enough for me not to gossip about you. says:
since u already know it WILL come. hee..
minutes writing....questionnaire.... says:
it's juz like doing skydiving...
minutes writing....questionnaire.... says:
e journey up is full o anticipation...
minutes writing....questionnaire.... says:
e 1st plunge take extreme courage
minutes writing....questionnaire.... says:
den u feel e free-fall...
You don't pay me enough for me not to gossip about you. says:
haa.. cool!
minutes writing....questionnaire.... says:
short but sweet
minutes writing....questionnaire.... says:
den it's e parachute
minutes writing....questionnaire.... says:
smooth & stable...
minutes writing....questionnaire.... says:
den it's down 2 earth....
minutes writing....questionnaire.... says:
& e whole thing ends....
minutes writing....questionnaire.... says:
if u r not careful, u land on hard grd or even in danger....
minutes writing....questionnaire.... says:
u know eventually u r gg 2 land....
You don't pay me enough for me not to gossip about you. says:
if u are too careful, u forget to enjoy the scenery in mid air.
minutes writing....questionnaire.... says:
tt's true...
minutes writing....questionnaire.... says:
but how 2 steer is really an art...
You don't pay me enough for me not to gossip about you. says:
of cos... no one tells u exactly what to do..
minutes writing....questionnaire.... says:
precisely....
You don't pay me enough for me not to gossip about you. says:
but well, give it ur best, with trust n respect for another person's differences, it makes it easier to steer.
minutes writing....questionnaire.... says:
cos there's e wind & all e other factors which interfere wif e whole precess...
You don't pay me enough for me not to gossip about you. says:
enjoy the ride.. n tok to u soon!
i'm getting gd at analogies.... says:
yes!
You don't pay me enough for me not to gossip about you. says:
yesh.. gettin damn good. haa.. byee
Tuesday, May 31, 2005
Surprised judge frees boy, 2, accused of adultery and theft
ST May 31, 2005
BANGLADESH TRIAL SHOCK
Surprised judge frees boy, 2, accused of adultery and theft
BOGRA (BANGLADESH) - A COURT in the northern Bangladeshi city of Bogra has acquitted a two-year-old child accused of adultery and theft, officials told the BBC.
The infant appeared in court on his mother's lap to seek bail.
Saiful Islam was accused along with six others in the case. The magistrate expressed 'surprise' at the charges and immediately released him.
He also ordered the complainant in the case to explain why he filed such charges against a toddler.
Magistrate Naveed Shafiullah told local politician Yunus Ali - who launched a preliminary investigation into the case - to explain how the incident happened.
A report in the Daily Star newspaper said that the charges against the child and the others were filed by Mr Jahangir Alam on Feb 9.
He alleged that Saiful Islam, other family members and his neighbours were all complicit in stealing gold ornaments and clothes worth between US$47 (S$78) and US$204 from his house.
Mr Alam also alleged that the named parties lured away his wife, Ms Mabia Khatun, to marry another man even though she was not properly divorced.
Ms Khatun is Saiful Islam's sister-in-law.
The case is not the first in Bangladesh to involve infants facing serious charges.
In March, Bangladesh's High Court stepped in to halt the trial of four infants - all members of an extended family - who were accused of looting and causing criminal damage. Four police officers were suspended for negligence in the case.
The infants, aged between three months and two years, appeared in court in their parents' arms and received bail.
Correspondents say the case highlighted the widespread practice of harassing people by filing false complaints.
BANGLADESH TRIAL SHOCK
Surprised judge frees boy, 2, accused of adultery and theft
BOGRA (BANGLADESH) - A COURT in the northern Bangladeshi city of Bogra has acquitted a two-year-old child accused of adultery and theft, officials told the BBC.
The infant appeared in court on his mother's lap to seek bail.
Saiful Islam was accused along with six others in the case. The magistrate expressed 'surprise' at the charges and immediately released him.
He also ordered the complainant in the case to explain why he filed such charges against a toddler.
Magistrate Naveed Shafiullah told local politician Yunus Ali - who launched a preliminary investigation into the case - to explain how the incident happened.
A report in the Daily Star newspaper said that the charges against the child and the others were filed by Mr Jahangir Alam on Feb 9.
He alleged that Saiful Islam, other family members and his neighbours were all complicit in stealing gold ornaments and clothes worth between US$47 (S$78) and US$204 from his house.
Mr Alam also alleged that the named parties lured away his wife, Ms Mabia Khatun, to marry another man even though she was not properly divorced.
Ms Khatun is Saiful Islam's sister-in-law.
The case is not the first in Bangladesh to involve infants facing serious charges.
In March, Bangladesh's High Court stepped in to halt the trial of four infants - all members of an extended family - who were accused of looting and causing criminal damage. Four police officers were suspended for negligence in the case.
The infants, aged between three months and two years, appeared in court in their parents' arms and received bail.
Correspondents say the case highlighted the widespread practice of harassing people by filing false complaints.
This hotline is really HOT
ST May 29, 2005
This hotline is really HOT
400,000 people have called sultry Nikki - and got more than what they bargained for
By Jeremy Au Yong
NIKKI, a voluptuous brunette with a sexy voice, receives about three calls to her hotline every minute.
'You like my voice?' she asks her callers, 'Do you think it's...sexy?'
Many men apparently do. Since the hotline was started in February, there have been nearly 400,000 calls.
Is she the world's busiest phone sex worker?
No, Nikki is a character created for the latest Aids awareness campaign from Action For Aids (AFA).
AFA placed ads in bus stops, coffee shops and the classified pages of various newspapers tempting people with sexy pictures and slogans like 'you'll call again and again' or 'want to know me?' There were even little stickers in public toilets that read: 'Very sexy girl, Want XXX, 6333-1411.'
Similar ads were made for their Mandarin hotline 6333-1211.
Those who called were greeted by sultry-sounding Nikki, who said she wanted to meet them and be their friend. But before she did, she wanted to know if they would wear a condom.
Depending on the choice made, callers would be either praised or reprimanded. Either way, the call ends with a serious message: 'Aids kills. Protect yourself. Use a condom.'
Said AFA executive director Paul Toh: 'We wanted something different. We thought about why some of the past campaigns didn't work. Fear didn't work. Boring messages didn't work.'
To come up with an effective concept, AFA worked with advertising agency Foote Cone & Belding, which engaged a model for the pictures and a voice actress to be Nikki. AFA would have been happy with 3,000 calls - no one expected this kind of response.
Said Mr Toh: 'Such good campaigns come along only once in a while. We want to see what kind of mileage we can get from it.'
The two Nikkis are not available for interviews because AFA said it does not want the models to distract people from the message.
The original campaign was due to run only till the end of last month. Now it is being extended to October and eight phone lines have been added to the initial two to handle the volume of calls.
This is not the first time an AFA ad has raised eyebrows. In 1991, it released print ads that featured pictures of condoms with slogans like 'cover your lover' and 'it can make any man more attractive'. The following year it launched a campaign along the same vein, showing a male model in big rubber Phua Chu Kang boots and the slogan 'Boys always look better in rubber'.
Its bold ads have got people talking, particularly the latest ads with Nikki.
Said Mr Zachary Sze-To, 29, an IT consultant who called the hotline out of curiosity: 'It's a very interesting way to deliver a message. I actually called back to find out what happened if I chose 'No'.'
But Mr David Lee, 22, a student at the National University of Singapore, questioned whether it has reached its intended audience. He said: 'Someone who is really looking for Nikki might get angry and put down the phone before hearing the message.'
Sociologist Tan Ern Ser thinks most callers would get the message, regardless of why they called. 'Since they have gone through the trouble of calling in, with certain expectations, I believe they will linger a little longer and in the process unknowingly become a captive audience.'
A HIV patient, who wanted to be known only as Anthony, also gave Nikki the thumbs-up: 'It's certainly different from normal Aids awareness messages. It brings home the fact that Aids can happen to anyone, even someone as beautiful as Nikki.'
This hotline is really HOT
400,000 people have called sultry Nikki - and got more than what they bargained for
By Jeremy Au Yong
NIKKI, a voluptuous brunette with a sexy voice, receives about three calls to her hotline every minute.
'You like my voice?' she asks her callers, 'Do you think it's...sexy?'
Many men apparently do. Since the hotline was started in February, there have been nearly 400,000 calls.
Is she the world's busiest phone sex worker?
No, Nikki is a character created for the latest Aids awareness campaign from Action For Aids (AFA).
AFA placed ads in bus stops, coffee shops and the classified pages of various newspapers tempting people with sexy pictures and slogans like 'you'll call again and again' or 'want to know me?' There were even little stickers in public toilets that read: 'Very sexy girl, Want XXX, 6333-1411.'
Similar ads were made for their Mandarin hotline 6333-1211.
Those who called were greeted by sultry-sounding Nikki, who said she wanted to meet them and be their friend. But before she did, she wanted to know if they would wear a condom.
Depending on the choice made, callers would be either praised or reprimanded. Either way, the call ends with a serious message: 'Aids kills. Protect yourself. Use a condom.'
Said AFA executive director Paul Toh: 'We wanted something different. We thought about why some of the past campaigns didn't work. Fear didn't work. Boring messages didn't work.'
To come up with an effective concept, AFA worked with advertising agency Foote Cone & Belding, which engaged a model for the pictures and a voice actress to be Nikki. AFA would have been happy with 3,000 calls - no one expected this kind of response.
Said Mr Toh: 'Such good campaigns come along only once in a while. We want to see what kind of mileage we can get from it.'
The two Nikkis are not available for interviews because AFA said it does not want the models to distract people from the message.
The original campaign was due to run only till the end of last month. Now it is being extended to October and eight phone lines have been added to the initial two to handle the volume of calls.
This is not the first time an AFA ad has raised eyebrows. In 1991, it released print ads that featured pictures of condoms with slogans like 'cover your lover' and 'it can make any man more attractive'. The following year it launched a campaign along the same vein, showing a male model in big rubber Phua Chu Kang boots and the slogan 'Boys always look better in rubber'.
Its bold ads have got people talking, particularly the latest ads with Nikki.
Said Mr Zachary Sze-To, 29, an IT consultant who called the hotline out of curiosity: 'It's a very interesting way to deliver a message. I actually called back to find out what happened if I chose 'No'.'
But Mr David Lee, 22, a student at the National University of Singapore, questioned whether it has reached its intended audience. He said: 'Someone who is really looking for Nikki might get angry and put down the phone before hearing the message.'
Sociologist Tan Ern Ser thinks most callers would get the message, regardless of why they called. 'Since they have gone through the trouble of calling in, with certain expectations, I believe they will linger a little longer and in the process unknowingly become a captive audience.'
A HIV patient, who wanted to be known only as Anthony, also gave Nikki the thumbs-up: 'It's certainly different from normal Aids awareness messages. It brings home the fact that Aids can happen to anyone, even someone as beautiful as Nikki.'
Shock would-be child sex tourists into saying 'no'
2005.05.28 ST
Shock would-be child sex tourists into saying 'no'
By Susan Long
WOULD it have made any difference to Darwis Rianto Lim if he had passed posters of dolls with bleeding genitals, warning against child sex tourism, as he sauntered towards his departure gate in Singapore?
Would the polytechnic lecturer - caught in a Bangkok hotel last month by Thai undercover cops after he allegedly posted messages on the Internet offering US$200 (S$329) for sex with a boy aged 12 to 16 - have looked away sheepishly? Or quickened his pace and walked on by?
When it comes to measures to curb child sex tourism, something heartening has emerged this past month.
Gone is Singapore's stock - and many say smug - insistence that child sex and human trafficking are 'not a problem' here.
For a while now, the authorities have strenuously maintained that, unlike in neighbouring countries, there is 'no evidence' of child prostitution or women being forced into the sex trade in Singapore.
As if, if it happens anywhere but here, then the problem is not really our problem. It's someone else's problem - for them, not us - to deal with. Or maybe it's just a problem with semantics and the popular understanding of 'trafficking'.
Last August, on that basis, the Government challenged a United States State Department report, which stated Singapore had a 'significant trafficking problem'.
Of late, in a helpful shift from the former denial stance, Singapore has joined ranks with Asean officials to craft an Asean Travellers' Code to fight child sex tourism in the region.
In another about-turn, just days after Senior Minister of State (Law and Home Affairs) Ho Peng Kee stressed the practical difficulties of extending jurisdiction against child sex overseas, the Home Affairs Ministry announced it was studying the feasibility of such a law.
Meanwhile, a recent Johns Hopkins University study surfaced that an estimated 600 Singaporean men go to Batam each weekend for sex with girls as young as 14.
Singaporeans now make up the largest number of sex tourists on Indonesia's Riau Islands and - sharing the 'honour' with Malaysians - in southern Thailand too.
According to Ms Saleemah Ismail of Unifem Singapore: 'These men travel there because it is cheaper than Singapore. For $50, a man can engage a sex worker's services for 24 hours, with no limit to the number of sexual acts.'
Indeed, a 48-year-old Singaporean hawker, fresh from a weekend Batam trip, raved: 'Not only are they young, but they are also eager to please and easy to please. Unlike Singapore women who want the sky and the moon, these Batam girls will treat you like a king.'
But Ms Saleemah estimates that one-third of Batam's sex workers are below 18, with some as young as 12.
'A growing number of children enter prostitution to help their families. Child prostitutes can earn 10 to 20 times more than what an unskilled factory worker earns,' she observed.
While Unifem used to focus on rehabilitating exploited women in Batam's sex trade, it is now trying to stem the demand from Singaporeans by appealing to the public to report those who engage in child prostitution to the police or Unifem (Tel: 6238-6761).
According to the Johns Hopkins report, most Singaporeans are 'situational' - rather than 'preferential' - sex tourists.
Unlike preferential sex tourists, situational ones do not deliberately travel to poor countries to buy child sex.
But when presented with the opportunity while travelling, most think 'Why not?' and consider sex a 'fun parenthesis' to their trip.
Most have elaborate justifications for their behaviour - that holiday sex is not an exploitative practice, that women and children in the sex industry 'chose it for themselves' and that they are just 'helping' ease the victims out of poverty.
According to a report by non-governmental organisation Ecpat (short for End Child Prostitution, Child Pornography and Trafficking of Children for Sexual Purposes), these disturbing views stem from racism and 'strong views about the inferiority of people other than their own, with no scruples about exploiting other persons as long as they consider them to be inferior'.
One common rationalisation here is that moves to curb demand from Singapore will probably continue to be hampered by poverty and corruption in the destination countries.
Yes, the root causes of child sex tourism, such as lack of education and unemployment, need to be addressed first.
And yes, destination countries need to shape up.
But their lack of action is no excuse for ours.
Countries of origin like Singapore must do more to issue stern warnings about the legal and health risks of having sex with minors abroad and rope in everyone - from airlines to airports, tour operators to travel agencies, customs officials to civic groups - in its campaign.
For example, since 1993, travel agencies in France have been sticking leaflets in their customers' tickets warning them against child prostitution.
Last year, the Brazilian government began awarding hotels which actively discourage child sex on their premises an extra star in their quality rating.
Will such efforts be enough to make Singapore's 'preferential' sex tourists and paedophiles turn back?
Probably not. But it could make a difference to 'situational' sex tourists.
Grave warnings on immigration forms and at immigration checkpoints - plus the open admission that we have a problem - could turn their still-too-casual 'Why not?' into a more considered 'Better not'.
The writer is editor of the Saturday Special Report.
E-mail: suelong@sph.com.sg
Shock would-be child sex tourists into saying 'no'
By Susan Long
WOULD it have made any difference to Darwis Rianto Lim if he had passed posters of dolls with bleeding genitals, warning against child sex tourism, as he sauntered towards his departure gate in Singapore?
Would the polytechnic lecturer - caught in a Bangkok hotel last month by Thai undercover cops after he allegedly posted messages on the Internet offering US$200 (S$329) for sex with a boy aged 12 to 16 - have looked away sheepishly? Or quickened his pace and walked on by?
When it comes to measures to curb child sex tourism, something heartening has emerged this past month.
Gone is Singapore's stock - and many say smug - insistence that child sex and human trafficking are 'not a problem' here.
For a while now, the authorities have strenuously maintained that, unlike in neighbouring countries, there is 'no evidence' of child prostitution or women being forced into the sex trade in Singapore.
As if, if it happens anywhere but here, then the problem is not really our problem. It's someone else's problem - for them, not us - to deal with. Or maybe it's just a problem with semantics and the popular understanding of 'trafficking'.
Last August, on that basis, the Government challenged a United States State Department report, which stated Singapore had a 'significant trafficking problem'.
Of late, in a helpful shift from the former denial stance, Singapore has joined ranks with Asean officials to craft an Asean Travellers' Code to fight child sex tourism in the region.
In another about-turn, just days after Senior Minister of State (Law and Home Affairs) Ho Peng Kee stressed the practical difficulties of extending jurisdiction against child sex overseas, the Home Affairs Ministry announced it was studying the feasibility of such a law.
Meanwhile, a recent Johns Hopkins University study surfaced that an estimated 600 Singaporean men go to Batam each weekend for sex with girls as young as 14.
Singaporeans now make up the largest number of sex tourists on Indonesia's Riau Islands and - sharing the 'honour' with Malaysians - in southern Thailand too.
According to Ms Saleemah Ismail of Unifem Singapore: 'These men travel there because it is cheaper than Singapore. For $50, a man can engage a sex worker's services for 24 hours, with no limit to the number of sexual acts.'
Indeed, a 48-year-old Singaporean hawker, fresh from a weekend Batam trip, raved: 'Not only are they young, but they are also eager to please and easy to please. Unlike Singapore women who want the sky and the moon, these Batam girls will treat you like a king.'
But Ms Saleemah estimates that one-third of Batam's sex workers are below 18, with some as young as 12.
'A growing number of children enter prostitution to help their families. Child prostitutes can earn 10 to 20 times more than what an unskilled factory worker earns,' she observed.
While Unifem used to focus on rehabilitating exploited women in Batam's sex trade, it is now trying to stem the demand from Singaporeans by appealing to the public to report those who engage in child prostitution to the police or Unifem (Tel: 6238-6761).
According to the Johns Hopkins report, most Singaporeans are 'situational' - rather than 'preferential' - sex tourists.
Unlike preferential sex tourists, situational ones do not deliberately travel to poor countries to buy child sex.
But when presented with the opportunity while travelling, most think 'Why not?' and consider sex a 'fun parenthesis' to their trip.
Most have elaborate justifications for their behaviour - that holiday sex is not an exploitative practice, that women and children in the sex industry 'chose it for themselves' and that they are just 'helping' ease the victims out of poverty.
According to a report by non-governmental organisation Ecpat (short for End Child Prostitution, Child Pornography and Trafficking of Children for Sexual Purposes), these disturbing views stem from racism and 'strong views about the inferiority of people other than their own, with no scruples about exploiting other persons as long as they consider them to be inferior'.
One common rationalisation here is that moves to curb demand from Singapore will probably continue to be hampered by poverty and corruption in the destination countries.
Yes, the root causes of child sex tourism, such as lack of education and unemployment, need to be addressed first.
And yes, destination countries need to shape up.
But their lack of action is no excuse for ours.
Countries of origin like Singapore must do more to issue stern warnings about the legal and health risks of having sex with minors abroad and rope in everyone - from airlines to airports, tour operators to travel agencies, customs officials to civic groups - in its campaign.
For example, since 1993, travel agencies in France have been sticking leaflets in their customers' tickets warning them against child prostitution.
Last year, the Brazilian government began awarding hotels which actively discourage child sex on their premises an extra star in their quality rating.
Will such efforts be enough to make Singapore's 'preferential' sex tourists and paedophiles turn back?
Probably not. But it could make a difference to 'situational' sex tourists.
Grave warnings on immigration forms and at immigration checkpoints - plus the open admission that we have a problem - could turn their still-too-casual 'Why not?' into a more considered 'Better not'.
The writer is editor of the Saturday Special Report.
E-mail: suelong@sph.com.sg
Monday, May 30, 2005
yi(4) shun(4) jian(1) de(1) xing(4) fu(1)
29052005....
i said tt i'm afraid...it's only on hindsight tt i realise tt....u said tt almost every1 wld feel tt initially....i dunno....security...a word tt nds 2 b operationalised...is it cos o tt??? i dunno...i guess cos there's no clear path tt we r walking...it's like walking in e dark...i dun like it...i feel disoriented...i feel giddy...vertigo probably...i dun like tt...i can remember e look...but i cant decipher e meaning...if i can i wld b invincible...i cant read...dun DYM, it's me, really me...i TTM...& i cant verbalise wat i feel or tink...i tink i haven recovered fr e overnite...i'm still concussed...i'm hungry...i've things 2 complete...i 1 2 pursue my passion...stop
i said tt i'm afraid...it's only on hindsight tt i realise tt....u said tt almost every1 wld feel tt initially....i dunno....security...a word tt nds 2 b operationalised...is it cos o tt??? i dunno...i guess cos there's no clear path tt we r walking...it's like walking in e dark...i dun like it...i feel disoriented...i feel giddy...vertigo probably...i dun like tt...i can remember e look...but i cant decipher e meaning...if i can i wld b invincible...i cant read...dun DYM, it's me, really me...i TTM...& i cant verbalise wat i feel or tink...i tink i haven recovered fr e overnite...i'm still concussed...i'm hungry...i've things 2 complete...i 1 2 pursue my passion...stop
28052005
happy birthday....i 4got all abt ur bday.....i'll get a present 4 u!!!
27052005....
shldn't write abt wat happened on tt day cos i said i accepted ur apology, & tt we shld not bring up past things....& i dun 1 2 remind myself....but i 1 2 write it down....
yes i was v upset.....i dun understd y u behave tt way initially...i feel like crying now when i tink abt wat happened....i dunno y i insisted gg....y i still went when u were so mean...i guess i 1ed 2 know y u acted e way u did...i guess i trusted u a lot...i guess i 1 2 write it down cos i 1 2 note down e best way o solving conflicts between us in e future....i know ur intentions when u did wat u did...i wldn't have been so upset if u've told me wat u tot....i know u r sorry 4 wat u did & i 4give u....i really do, cos i know i was wrong 2....so treat tis experience as a lesson 2 learning more abt us....thk u 4 tinking so much 4 me....i appreciate it!!!
29052005....
u r more responsible den me....thk u 4 making so much effort....i was so happy when u said wat u said...i really placed a lot o trust in u....a lot a lot....i hope u dun feel pressurized....i dunno y i trust u so much....it's probably e way tt i treat every rs....if u cant trust e other person, den there's no pt in carrying on e rs...i hope i can b sme1 whom u can place ur trust on....i hope i hope.....
27052005....
shldn't write abt wat happened on tt day cos i said i accepted ur apology, & tt we shld not bring up past things....& i dun 1 2 remind myself....but i 1 2 write it down....
yes i was v upset.....i dun understd y u behave tt way initially...i feel like crying now when i tink abt wat happened....i dunno y i insisted gg....y i still went when u were so mean...i guess i 1ed 2 know y u acted e way u did...i guess i trusted u a lot...i guess i 1 2 write it down cos i 1 2 note down e best way o solving conflicts between us in e future....i know ur intentions when u did wat u did...i wldn't have been so upset if u've told me wat u tot....i know u r sorry 4 wat u did & i 4give u....i really do, cos i know i was wrong 2....so treat tis experience as a lesson 2 learning more abt us....thk u 4 tinking so much 4 me....i appreciate it!!!
29052005....
u r more responsible den me....thk u 4 making so much effort....i was so happy when u said wat u said...i really placed a lot o trust in u....a lot a lot....i hope u dun feel pressurized....i dunno y i trust u so much....it's probably e way tt i treat every rs....if u cant trust e other person, den there's no pt in carrying on e rs...i hope i can b sme1 whom u can place ur trust on....i hope i hope.....
apology....
i'm sorry....i hope i dun feel tt again....i feel so bad....i dun 1 2 feel tt....i'm so upset wif myself....pls dun ask me wat happened....i feel so bad....really really bad....i'm so guilty.....i'm sorry....
Trust....
Fr Diver Dear's....
A little girl and her father were crossing a flimsy bridge. The father was kind of scared so he asked his little daughter, "Sweetheart, please hold my hand so that you don't fall into the river."
The little girl said, "No, Dad. You hold my hand."
"What the difference?" asked the puzzled father.
"There's a big difference," replied the little girl. "If I hold your hand and something happens to me, chances are that I may let your hand go. But if you hold my hand, I know for sure that no matter what happens, you will never let my hand go."
In any relationship, the essence of trust is not in its bind, age, castle or creed but in its bond. So hold the hand of the person whom you love rather than expecting them to hold urs.
No wonder u asked me e qn....
A little girl and her father were crossing a flimsy bridge. The father was kind of scared so he asked his little daughter, "Sweetheart, please hold my hand so that you don't fall into the river."
The little girl said, "No, Dad. You hold my hand."
"What the difference?" asked the puzzled father.
"There's a big difference," replied the little girl. "If I hold your hand and something happens to me, chances are that I may let your hand go. But if you hold my hand, I know for sure that no matter what happens, you will never let my hand go."
In any relationship, the essence of trust is not in its bind, age, castle or creed but in its bond. So hold the hand of the person whom you love rather than expecting them to hold urs.
No wonder u asked me e qn....
Thursday, May 26, 2005
L......
今天她又被骂了。。。我就知道她不了解老板要什么。。。可我并没提醒她。。。可能是自私吧。。。可能是我很坏吧。。。就是想让她犯错， 那她才会学。。。有时我真的不知道为什么她就是CANNOT FOLLOW。。。是 FREQUENCY 错了吗？？？我还要和她合作 PRE-CONFERENCE，我真不知道会发生什么状况。。。心有余悸。。。我不否认她很细心，可是跟她说话真得就是很想一头撞死算了！！！饿了。。。吃LUNCH。。。
Wednesday, May 25, 2005
腼腆的表情...
我很喜欢他那腼腆的表情 (特别是在吃晚餐时那一瞬间，HEHEHEE， I’M SORRY， BUT I LIKE UR EXPRESSION 。。。)。。。很喜欢他那微微酒窝的笑容。。。他拍照时偶尔嘴嘟嘟的样子。。。他睡觉时轻轻的呼吸。。。他那长长的睫毛偶而在脸上轻轻地扫着。。。他暖暖的手扶在腰上。。。在下楼梯时他那紧紧握着我的手，那让我觉得不怕跌倒的感觉。。。他在我很不想起床做工时，传来MORNING CALL的SMS。。。他很注意周围的事，让我无须浪费精神。。。他那心疼我的表情。。。很多很多小小的东西。。。谢谢你。。。
ST 2005.05.25
Fatherhood
Love is thicker than blood
Whether parents are natural or adoptive, it's how they care for their kids that counts
By Mathew Pereira
RECENTLY, my friend Lian Kee and his wife told their 13-year-old daughter, Pamela, that they were not her natural parents and that she was adopted.
My eyes filled up as my wife told me this, and I tried to visualise the stunned teenager standing with her parents, trying to come to grips with what she had just heard.
Pamela was still a nameless baby in China when Lian Kee first told me about her. Their hearts were set on this beautiful girl they had seen at an adoption agency in Hainan Island, he said.
They were to make a follow-up trip to bring her home after the paperwork was done.
Seeing Pamela in church every week, I have watched her grow from a tiny bawling baby into a confident, cheerful, chatty girl. She had some very close friends in church whom she spent a lot of time with, given that she had no siblings.
Her parents meant everything to her, but I wondered if this would now change.
I spoke to Lian Kee, who is in his 50s, the following day. Yes, Pamela cried. She was crushed.
But it was something his wife and he had decided a long time ago to do. 'We have been praying for the right time,' he said.
As a father, he was loving and committed to Pamela to a fault. But her not knowing that she was adopted ate into him, he said.
It was not the first time that I had heard of his desire to be a perfect father.
In contrast, just a week before this incident, I was told about another father. His successful business in China took him away from home regularly.
'He is never home,' his sister-in-law complained. And when he is, he does not talk to his children.
'He was never actively involved in bringing them up, he just made sure that their material and physical needs were provided for,' she added.
His sons, she noted, had grown up with little guidance from him. 'The kids take up courses and drop out midway, job-hop and basically did not have the perseverance to see something through,' she said of the two sons who were in their 20s.
What an irony - a natural father who did not bother much about his kids but an adoptive parent who tried to be the perfect Dad.
But Lian Kee is not the first adoptive parent who has set himself high parenting standards. It made sense. People like him are eager to have children and consider it a privilege to be able to adopt.
As such, I have always been left with a positive view of adoption. In fact, I seriously contemplated doing it about 10 years ago.
Then, my wife was in her mid-30s and we had three children. Our target from the onset (at a time when the Stop At Two policy was still in place) was four.
Not wanting to go through the anxiety of a fourth pregnancy and also for a variety of other reasons, we thought of adopting instead.
At that time, I was hearing of more adoption cases. From anecdotal evidence, the number appeared to be on the rise and I believe it has been increasing steadily.
Last year, there were 731 child adoptions in Singapore. Two-thirds of the children were from abroad. The year before that, 672 children were adopted.
It was my Mum who scared me off my plans. It is fine if you have no children, she said. But with three of your own, you are bound to discriminate against the adopted one.
I could not quite tell if she was articulating fears about the possibility of her discriminating as a grandmother or whether she really had no faith in me. But she had planted enough doubts to make me drop the idea.
However, I continued to support adoption, pushing the idea among close friends who were unable to have children of their own.
I remember a good friend who laughed when I handed him a hongbao when his wife and he adopted a child. 'There is no reason to,' he said. 'I adopted the child.'
'I know,' I replied and pushed the hongbao into his palm.
The child, whether adopted or not, made no difference to me. He was now the child's father.
About two weeks after Lian Kee shared the events in his family with me, he suffered a stroke.
Fortunately, it was a mild one which the doctors assured he would almost surely recover fully from.
Even so, when I visited him in hospital, he was in a contemplative mood and had been giving life and death issues serious thought.
He was ready to die, he said, 'but for one thing - I would like to see my Pamela graduate'.
His wish was no different from what mine would have been, if I were ill.
I asked him at the hospital how Pamela was coping.
'Has she gotten over the whole incident, has it changed the relationship?'
He said that things had worked out well.
In fact, on the night when she was told about her adoption, she had walked over to hug him tightly, just before she went to bed.
And she had said: 'Dad, I love you.'
Send your comments to stlife@sph.com.sg
Fatherhood
Love is thicker than blood
Whether parents are natural or adoptive, it's how they care for their kids that counts
By Mathew Pereira
RECENTLY, my friend Lian Kee and his wife told their 13-year-old daughter, Pamela, that they were not her natural parents and that she was adopted.
My eyes filled up as my wife told me this, and I tried to visualise the stunned teenager standing with her parents, trying to come to grips with what she had just heard.
Pamela was still a nameless baby in China when Lian Kee first told me about her. Their hearts were set on this beautiful girl they had seen at an adoption agency in Hainan Island, he said.
They were to make a follow-up trip to bring her home after the paperwork was done.
Seeing Pamela in church every week, I have watched her grow from a tiny bawling baby into a confident, cheerful, chatty girl. She had some very close friends in church whom she spent a lot of time with, given that she had no siblings.
Her parents meant everything to her, but I wondered if this would now change.
I spoke to Lian Kee, who is in his 50s, the following day. Yes, Pamela cried. She was crushed.
But it was something his wife and he had decided a long time ago to do. 'We have been praying for the right time,' he said.
As a father, he was loving and committed to Pamela to a fault. But her not knowing that she was adopted ate into him, he said.
It was not the first time that I had heard of his desire to be a perfect father.
In contrast, just a week before this incident, I was told about another father. His successful business in China took him away from home regularly.
'He is never home,' his sister-in-law complained. And when he is, he does not talk to his children.
'He was never actively involved in bringing them up, he just made sure that their material and physical needs were provided for,' she added.
His sons, she noted, had grown up with little guidance from him. 'The kids take up courses and drop out midway, job-hop and basically did not have the perseverance to see something through,' she said of the two sons who were in their 20s.
What an irony - a natural father who did not bother much about his kids but an adoptive parent who tried to be the perfect Dad.
But Lian Kee is not the first adoptive parent who has set himself high parenting standards. It made sense. People like him are eager to have children and consider it a privilege to be able to adopt.
As such, I have always been left with a positive view of adoption. In fact, I seriously contemplated doing it about 10 years ago.
Then, my wife was in her mid-30s and we had three children. Our target from the onset (at a time when the Stop At Two policy was still in place) was four.
Not wanting to go through the anxiety of a fourth pregnancy and also for a variety of other reasons, we thought of adopting instead.
At that time, I was hearing of more adoption cases. From anecdotal evidence, the number appeared to be on the rise and I believe it has been increasing steadily.
Last year, there were 731 child adoptions in Singapore. Two-thirds of the children were from abroad. The year before that, 672 children were adopted.
It was my Mum who scared me off my plans. It is fine if you have no children, she said. But with three of your own, you are bound to discriminate against the adopted one.
I could not quite tell if she was articulating fears about the possibility of her discriminating as a grandmother or whether she really had no faith in me. But she had planted enough doubts to make me drop the idea.
However, I continued to support adoption, pushing the idea among close friends who were unable to have children of their own.
I remember a good friend who laughed when I handed him a hongbao when his wife and he adopted a child. 'There is no reason to,' he said. 'I adopted the child.'
'I know,' I replied and pushed the hongbao into his palm.
The child, whether adopted or not, made no difference to me. He was now the child's father.
About two weeks after Lian Kee shared the events in his family with me, he suffered a stroke.
Fortunately, it was a mild one which the doctors assured he would almost surely recover fully from.
Even so, when I visited him in hospital, he was in a contemplative mood and had been giving life and death issues serious thought.
He was ready to die, he said, 'but for one thing - I would like to see my Pamela graduate'.
His wish was no different from what mine would have been, if I were ill.
I asked him at the hospital how Pamela was coping.
'Has she gotten over the whole incident, has it changed the relationship?'
He said that things had worked out well.
In fact, on the night when she was told about her adoption, she had walked over to hug him tightly, just before she went to bed.
And she had said: 'Dad, I love you.'
Send your comments to stlife@sph.com.sg
Tuesday, May 24, 2005
vesak day wkend....
这次没能和她们一起“旅行”因为我不喜欢骑脚车。。。有点可惜。。。很想去，可我真的不喜欢。。。觉得有点奇怪因为通常有这么长的假期都会和她们一起过。。。这个假期我们都各分东西。。。妮和TCC 骑车旅游，SWING 去了KRABI 攀岩，我和他一起度过。。。就是觉得奇怪。。。可能已经很习惯有她们的陪伴。。。生活有了改变，因为有了个他。。。我一直没有想过我会先有个他。。。因为我们曾经VOTE 过8 个人中谁会先GET MARRIED， 而我一律被通过为LAST。。。所以我一点都没想过会那么快有个他。。。有他很好，可我觉得她们好像有点疏远了，可能是因为她们不想打扰我和他。。。我不想因为有了他， 让我们疏远。。。可能是我太TTM 了。。。我们一定要再一起去度假！！！SWING， U R TASKED WIF OUR NX TRIP！！！ HEHEHE。。。。期待我们的 NX TTMG CLUB OUTING！！！
ST 2005.05.21
Crack down on child sex tourists
By Claudine Lim, Melissa Kwee, and Saleemah Ismail
For The Straits Times
THE recent frank discussion in the press and Parliament on the issue of Singaporeans sexually exploiting children and trafficked women is a welcome development. In particular, the Home Affairs Ministry statement that it is seriously considering appropriate legislation is a significant step.
Focusing on the demand component in such sexual abuse is progress.
This region has largely viewed the issue in its supply side context - the result of poverty, structural inequality, absence of effective legislation and weak or corrupt law enforcement.
While these are without doubt key factors, there has been globally a relative silence on how more affluent citizens exploit the gaps at home and abroad to buy the sexual services of women and children who are often forced to work under exploitative, degrading conditions.
Effective legislation is undoubtedly important, but as Senior Minister of State for Law and Home Affairs, Associate Professor Ho Peng Kee, pointed out in Parliament on Monday the problem is not solely the Government's responsibility. There are three main challenges which require broader social cooperation.
First, there is the network that facilitates access to under-aged prostitutes and trafficking victims. This embraces Internet chat rooms and websites in the virtual world and, on the ground, tour operators, taxi drivers, pimps, hotel staff and others who often benefit from the fees-for-service. Tackling this requires a counter network of caring citizens who will report such transactions or victims in need.
Second, the networks are not merely local but also transnational. Effective action requires the cooperation of civil society, businesses and law enforcement both within and between their sectors, and across national boundaries.
Third, it is not easy but important that we acknowledge our culture of silence on sexual offences and related issues. Our laws identify and severely punish sexual offenders. However, society also punishes the victims by stigmatising them and their families when they seek help. In the absence of a compassionate response, victims of sexual abuse and their families, as well as offenders' families, often see silence as their only option. The Government cannot solve this, but as friends and community members, we can.
The customers
ULTIMATELY, the source of demand must be addressed. Who are these customers?
Singaporean sex tourists who travel to nearby low-cost locations to procure sex services from minors and trafficked girls are mostly 'preferential' or 'situational' abusers, not paedophiles per se.
Preferential abusers seek out ever younger girls or boys for a variety of reasons: a sense of power, a fallacious belief that they are 'cleaner' and therefore lower the risk of contracting sexually transmitted diseases. Some labour under an even more misguided notion that 'virginal' girls have curative or restorative effects on men.
Situational offenders are those who do not specifically seek out young girls but are presented with the opportunity, and choose to accept. They may be motivated by similar reasons to the preferential abuser. Or perhaps they choose to ignore the fact that the girl is under-aged, or rationalise their actions as being in the girl's best interest (for example, by providing her with an income or by using her service, help her avoid punishment by her pimp or abuse by a client who is less kind).
Establishing that the sexual exploitation of children while overseas is a criminal act and making it clear that society is not willing to turn a blind eye will deter potential preferential and situational offenders, if not hardcore paedophiles. Public education, backed up by force of law, will make for a more vigilant community that does not condone such behaviour.
Enforcement is no doubt challenging and complex. Challenges include obtaining reliable evidence and witnesses, protecting victims and managing the complexities of transnational cooperation.
Nonetheless, there is an upward trend in the number of successful prosecutions in countries that have child sex tourism laws in place, as more experience is gained and techniques become more sophisticated.
In the business sector, willingness to act has been muted, but some airlines and hotel groups have a clear policy of taking a stand against child sex tourism by educating their customers.
Some even have a reporting mechanism in place to assist law enforcement. Over time, it is hoped that this group of enlightened tourism players will grow.
A Code of Conduct (www.thecode.org) promulgated by the non-governmental organisation End Child Prostitution, Pornography and Trafficking, the World Tourism Organisation and the United Nations Children's Fund has been endorsed by many governments, most recently the United States and Japan.
Tourism companies that adopt the code commit themselves to establishing an ethical policy against commercial sexual exploitation of children, providing relevant staff training, requiring suppliers to take a common stand on the issue and educating customers.
Last but not least, public education is crucial. We can punish and shame offenders, but it is how the rest of us raise our children, teach values of respect and self-worth, and act towards our fellow humans that will make the long-term difference. Child sex tourism and sexual abuse and exploitation of vulnerable women and children should not be seen only as a crime but also a deep festering moral wound.
The writers belong to the national committee of Unifem Singapore, the Singapore chapter of the UN Development Fund for Women. www.unifemsingapore.org.sg
Crack down on child sex tourists
By Claudine Lim, Melissa Kwee, and Saleemah Ismail
For The Straits Times
THE recent frank discussion in the press and Parliament on the issue of Singaporeans sexually exploiting children and trafficked women is a welcome development. In particular, the Home Affairs Ministry statement that it is seriously considering appropriate legislation is a significant step.
Focusing on the demand component in such sexual abuse is progress.
This region has largely viewed the issue in its supply side context - the result of poverty, structural inequality, absence of effective legislation and weak or corrupt law enforcement.
While these are without doubt key factors, there has been globally a relative silence on how more affluent citizens exploit the gaps at home and abroad to buy the sexual services of women and children who are often forced to work under exploitative, degrading conditions.
Effective legislation is undoubtedly important, but as Senior Minister of State for Law and Home Affairs, Associate Professor Ho Peng Kee, pointed out in Parliament on Monday the problem is not solely the Government's responsibility. There are three main challenges which require broader social cooperation.
First, there is the network that facilitates access to under-aged prostitutes and trafficking victims. This embraces Internet chat rooms and websites in the virtual world and, on the ground, tour operators, taxi drivers, pimps, hotel staff and others who often benefit from the fees-for-service. Tackling this requires a counter network of caring citizens who will report such transactions or victims in need.
Second, the networks are not merely local but also transnational. Effective action requires the cooperation of civil society, businesses and law enforcement both within and between their sectors, and across national boundaries.
Third, it is not easy but important that we acknowledge our culture of silence on sexual offences and related issues. Our laws identify and severely punish sexual offenders. However, society also punishes the victims by stigmatising them and their families when they seek help. In the absence of a compassionate response, victims of sexual abuse and their families, as well as offenders' families, often see silence as their only option. The Government cannot solve this, but as friends and community members, we can.
The customers
ULTIMATELY, the source of demand must be addressed. Who are these customers?
Singaporean sex tourists who travel to nearby low-cost locations to procure sex services from minors and trafficked girls are mostly 'preferential' or 'situational' abusers, not paedophiles per se.
Preferential abusers seek out ever younger girls or boys for a variety of reasons: a sense of power, a fallacious belief that they are 'cleaner' and therefore lower the risk of contracting sexually transmitted diseases. Some labour under an even more misguided notion that 'virginal' girls have curative or restorative effects on men.
Situational offenders are those who do not specifically seek out young girls but are presented with the opportunity, and choose to accept. They may be motivated by similar reasons to the preferential abuser. Or perhaps they choose to ignore the fact that the girl is under-aged, or rationalise their actions as being in the girl's best interest (for example, by providing her with an income or by using her service, help her avoid punishment by her pimp or abuse by a client who is less kind).
Establishing that the sexual exploitation of children while overseas is a criminal act and making it clear that society is not willing to turn a blind eye will deter potential preferential and situational offenders, if not hardcore paedophiles. Public education, backed up by force of law, will make for a more vigilant community that does not condone such behaviour.
Enforcement is no doubt challenging and complex. Challenges include obtaining reliable evidence and witnesses, protecting victims and managing the complexities of transnational cooperation.
Nonetheless, there is an upward trend in the number of successful prosecutions in countries that have child sex tourism laws in place, as more experience is gained and techniques become more sophisticated.
In the business sector, willingness to act has been muted, but some airlines and hotel groups have a clear policy of taking a stand against child sex tourism by educating their customers.
Some even have a reporting mechanism in place to assist law enforcement. Over time, it is hoped that this group of enlightened tourism players will grow.
A Code of Conduct (www.thecode.org) promulgated by the non-governmental organisation End Child Prostitution, Pornography and Trafficking, the World Tourism Organisation and the United Nations Children's Fund has been endorsed by many governments, most recently the United States and Japan.
Tourism companies that adopt the code commit themselves to establishing an ethical policy against commercial sexual exploitation of children, providing relevant staff training, requiring suppliers to take a common stand on the issue and educating customers.
Last but not least, public education is crucial. We can punish and shame offenders, but it is how the rest of us raise our children, teach values of respect and self-worth, and act towards our fellow humans that will make the long-term difference. Child sex tourism and sexual abuse and exploitation of vulnerable women and children should not be seen only as a crime but also a deep festering moral wound.
The writers belong to the national committee of Unifem Singapore, the Singapore chapter of the UN Development Fund for Women. www.unifemsingapore.org.sg
Untitled by Simple Plan
dear's fav song at tis moment....i like tis song 2.....
Untitled
by Simple Plan
I open my eyes
I try to see but I'm blinded by the white light
I can't remember how
I can't remember why
I'm lying here tonight
And I can't stand the pain
And I can't make it go away
No I can't stand the pain
How could this happen to me
I made my mistakes
I've got no where to run
The night goes on
As I'm fading away
I'm sick of this life
I just wanna scream
How could this happen to me
Everybody's screaming
I try to make a sound but no one hears me
I'm slipping off the edge
I'm hanging by a thread
I wanna start this over again
So I try to hold onto a time when nothing mattered
And I can't explain what happened
And I can't erase the things that I've done
No I can't
How could this happen to me
I made my mistakes
I've got no where to run
The night goes on
As I'm fading away
I'm sick of this life
I just wanna scream
How could this happen to me
I made my mistakes
I've got no where to run
The night goes on
As I'm fading away
I'm sick of this life
I just wanna scream
How could this happen to me
Untitled
by Simple Plan
I open my eyes
I try to see but I'm blinded by the white light
I can't remember how
I can't remember why
I'm lying here tonight
And I can't stand the pain
And I can't make it go away
No I can't stand the pain
How could this happen to me
I made my mistakes
I've got no where to run
The night goes on
As I'm fading away
I'm sick of this life
I just wanna scream
How could this happen to me
Everybody's screaming
I try to make a sound but no one hears me
I'm slipping off the edge
I'm hanging by a thread
I wanna start this over again
So I try to hold onto a time when nothing mattered
And I can't explain what happened
And I can't erase the things that I've done
No I can't
How could this happen to me
I made my mistakes
I've got no where to run
The night goes on
As I'm fading away
I'm sick of this life
I just wanna scream
How could this happen to me
I made my mistakes
I've got no where to run
The night goes on
As I'm fading away
I'm sick of this life
I just wanna scream
How could this happen to me
Tuesday, May 17, 2005
bored stiff....
in class now.....really bored stiff!!!! thk gdness e projector cldn't work in e other room so we came down 2 e computer lab 4 e class, so here i m blogging away while e trainer is speaking away....he's basically teaching stuff tt i oredi know & he doesn't give any more indepth stuff....i tot e class was supposed 2 teach us how 2 train pple 2 help us conduct field surveys, not teach stats!!!! if i 1ed stats i wld 've gone 4 my spss class....not waste a couple o hundreds sitting here blogging.....argh.....hopefully he'll teach factor analysis & relaibility analysis ltr on.....pls pls pls....ok gg 2 help him compare e hp prices....he spent >200Rm on hp bills last mth.... ;p sorry dear.....
Friday, May 13, 2005
humor....
wah she know how 2 appreciate humor 2!!!
here's her fwd email....not bad!!!
When times are bad....................Hang Cheng Pai.....................A NUS graduate found himself difficult to get a job here. He finally accepted the offer to work with Mandai Zoo."What to do? It's better to work like this than earning nothing...", mumbling to himself.So since that day, the IT grad started work acting as a monkey. He has to wear monkey suit and mask, chew nuts and eat bananas. He has to climb trees too and jump from one to another to attract visitors. The zoo has since then enjoyed tremendous business due to the increase in visitors. Even SM Lee wanted to see the super 'smart' monkey in the world. Unfortunately, one day when he was jumping from the trees. He fell down into a crocodile pool! "Oh my God....I'm dying... now" he thought, as a hungry looking crocodile swam steadily towards his direction. In the middle of his struggle, suddenly he heard a soft voice, "Don't be afraid my friend... I'm from NTU".
i dunno y but when i read e last part, reminded me o da shi xiong!!! hahahhaa....i can imagine him wearing e suit hahhaha....den still have e bear....hahhahah
here's her fwd email....not bad!!!
When times are bad....................Hang Cheng Pai.....................A NUS graduate found himself difficult to get a job here. He finally accepted the offer to work with Mandai Zoo."What to do? It's better to work like this than earning nothing...", mumbling to himself.So since that day, the IT grad started work acting as a monkey. He has to wear monkey suit and mask, chew nuts and eat bananas. He has to climb trees too and jump from one to another to attract visitors. The zoo has since then enjoyed tremendous business due to the increase in visitors. Even SM Lee wanted to see the super 'smart' monkey in the world. Unfortunately, one day when he was jumping from the trees. He fell down into a crocodile pool! "Oh my God....I'm dying... now" he thought, as a hungry looking crocodile swam steadily towards his direction. In the middle of his struggle, suddenly he heard a soft voice, "Don't be afraid my friend... I'm from NTU".
i dunno y but when i read e last part, reminded me o da shi xiong!!! hahahhaa....i can imagine him wearing e suit hahhaha....den still have e bear....hahhahah
Thursday, May 12, 2005
a 1000 miles...
swing do u remember tis song??? everytime i hear tis song i always remember e time we studied in nus, at e bench near e E lang department...remember??? e v secluded place??? den we play open open win???? i tink cos tt time e song was v popular so everytime also play....i remember e raintree....e cool breeze....e dabao chicken rice...my mini-radioclock....e early mornings where we smetimes 've 2 go chop our place....so huai nian......
"A Thousand Miles" by Vannessa Carlton
Making my way downtown
Walking fast
Faces pass
And I'm home bound
Staring blankly ahead
Just making my way
Making a way
Through the crowd
And I need you
And I miss you
And now I wonder....
If I could fall
Into the sky
Do you think time
Would pass me by
'Cause you know
I'd walk
A thousand miles
If I could
Just see you
Tonight
It's always times like these
When I think of you
And I wonder
If you ever
Think of me
'Cause everything's so wrong
And I don't belong
Living in your
Precious memories
'Cause I need you
And I miss you
And now I wonder....
If I could fall
Into the sky
Do you think time
Would pass me by
'Cause you know I'd walk
A thousand miles
If I could
Just see you
Tonight
And I, I
Don't want to let you know
I, I
Drown in your memory
I, I
Don't want to let this go
I, I
Don't....
Making my way downtown
Walking fast
Faces pass
And I'm home bound
Staring blankly ahead
Just making my way
Making a way
Through the crowd
And I still need you
And I still miss you
And now I wonder....
If I could fall
Into the sky
Do you think time
Would pass us by
'Cause you know
I'd walkA thousand miles
If I could
Just see you...
If I could fall
Into the sky
Do you think time
Would pass me by
'Cause you know I'd walk
A thousand miles
If I could
Just see you
If I could
Just hold you
Tonight
"A Thousand Miles" by Vannessa Carlton
Making my way downtown
Walking fast
Faces pass
And I'm home bound
Staring blankly ahead
Just making my way
Making a way
Through the crowd
And I need you
And I miss you
And now I wonder....
If I could fall
Into the sky
Do you think time
Would pass me by
'Cause you know
I'd walk
A thousand miles
If I could
Just see you
Tonight
It's always times like these
When I think of you
And I wonder
If you ever
Think of me
'Cause everything's so wrong
And I don't belong
Living in your
Precious memories
'Cause I need you
And I miss you
And now I wonder....
If I could fall
Into the sky
Do you think time
Would pass me by
'Cause you know I'd walk
A thousand miles
If I could
Just see you
Tonight
And I, I
Don't want to let you know
I, I
Drown in your memory
I, I
Don't want to let this go
I, I
Don't....
Making my way downtown
Walking fast
Faces pass
And I'm home bound
Staring blankly ahead
Just making my way
Making a way
Through the crowd
And I still need you
And I still miss you
And now I wonder....
If I could fall
Into the sky
Do you think time
Would pass us by
'Cause you know
I'd walkA thousand miles
If I could
Just see you...
If I could fall
Into the sky
Do you think time
Would pass me by
'Cause you know I'd walk
A thousand miles
If I could
Just see you
If I could
Just hold you
Tonight
T4MG....
trials & tribulations o e TTMG....
in progress.....
current page count: 55....
days 2 publishing: TBA.....
STAY TUNED.....DUN MISS E OFFICIAL LAUNCH O TIS EXCLUSIVE BOOK BY E TTMG....
in progress.....
current page count: 55....
days 2 publishing: TBA.....
STAY TUNED.....DUN MISS E OFFICIAL LAUNCH O TIS EXCLUSIVE BOOK BY E TTMG....
Tuesday, May 10, 2005
妈咪...
我挺喜欢煮东西的，不喜欢吃不过就是喜欢煮。。。虽然煮得并不是很好就是喜欢 experiment。。。这里加一点，那里加一点。。。应该是受妈妈的影响。。。
小时候妈妈有时没空，她会让我帮忙煮，虽然是很简单的菜，有时还会炒的过火，很难吃，可她都会说可以，然后会提点下次应该怎么做。。。就是她那很包容的心让我在成长的过程有了更多的机会尝试。。。可能也因为她的放松让我有时会把她给忽略了。。。不征求她的同意，只一谓的做自己想做的事。。。觉得自己很自私从来都不会想她会不会担心。。。知道她会就不告诉她直到完成后才让她懂。。。
这个母亲节我们会在这星期天才庆祝。。。不知道要不要去划龙舟后才去。。。不知道要不要让他去。。。不知道要不要买东西送她。。。不知道要买什么。。。
妈咪，母亲节快乐。。。希望你会天天快乐。。。不要为我们操心，我们都长大了，是时候让我们照顾你了。。。你和爸爸可以牵着手一起到你们向往的地方去渡假。。。让我存多点钱下次让你们去更好的地方。。。
小时候妈妈有时没空，她会让我帮忙煮，虽然是很简单的菜，有时还会炒的过火，很难吃，可她都会说可以，然后会提点下次应该怎么做。。。就是她那很包容的心让我在成长的过程有了更多的机会尝试。。。可能也因为她的放松让我有时会把她给忽略了。。。不征求她的同意，只一谓的做自己想做的事。。。觉得自己很自私从来都不会想她会不会担心。。。知道她会就不告诉她直到完成后才让她懂。。。
这个母亲节我们会在这星期天才庆祝。。。不知道要不要去划龙舟后才去。。。不知道要不要让他去。。。不知道要不要买东西送她。。。不知道要买什么。。。
妈咪，母亲节快乐。。。希望你会天天快乐。。。不要为我们操心，我们都长大了，是时候让我们照顾你了。。。你和爸爸可以牵着手一起到你们向往的地方去渡假。。。让我存多点钱下次让你们去更好的地方。。。
打包...
今天又是在 office 里吃午餐。。。每次都 dabao。。。这几天想 detox 因为一直吃，没停得吃。。。不知道是不是大姨妈要来了才这样。。。又没运动，肚腩是越来越大，怎样都减不掉。。。我知道我并不胖不过就是想让自己更匀称一点。。。有哪个女人不想呢？？？
有时不吃晚餐不是为了减肥，而是因为吃了后要运动会不舒服。。。也因为不知道要吃什么。。。我还真够懒的。。。连吃什么都懒得想。。。其实有时候我真得想不用吃东西那该多好。。。
我真得是懒到没话说。。。饿了，同事怎么还没回来？？？
有时不吃晚餐不是为了减肥，而是因为吃了后要运动会不舒服。。。也因为不知道要吃什么。。。我还真够懒的。。。连吃什么都懒得想。。。其实有时候我真得想不用吃东西那该多好。。。
我真得是懒到没话说。。。饿了，同事怎么还没回来？？？
Monday, May 09, 2005
starfish....
it was a pleasant & sweet surprise....i didn't expect it....i tot it was e cookies he mentioned...e cookies were a sweet gesture 2....i'll upload e pic once i get his camera...ok i found e pic on e web...
Friday, May 06, 2005
ST 2005.05.06
Time to throw the book at child sex tour organisers
By Andy Ho
Senior Writer
RECENTLY, Temasek Polytechnic teacher Darwis Rianto Lim was arrested in Bangkok for allegedly trying to procure young boys for sex.
He is not the only Singaporean to have tried that. A recent Johns Hopkins study shows that some Singaporeans visit Batam for sex with girls as young as 14 years.
As domestic law stands at the moment, Singaporeans commit no offence when they have sex with children while overseas.
This is despite the urging of a number of people over the years to change the law. Last year, Home Affairs Minister Wong Kan Seng explained in Parliament that, even if there were such an amendment, implementing it to deter local child-sex tourists would be fraught with difficulties.
But not everyone is convinced. The president of the Association of Criminal Lawyers, Mr Subhas Anandan, points out that Singaporeans who take drugs elsewhere have been prosecuted when they returned home.
But the parallel between drug takers and paedophiles is far from perfect, for several reasons.
Mr Lim Hsin Hin, a Singaporean lawyer practising in London, points out that there is a principle of 'active nationality', which is recognised under international law, which makes it permissible for a government to exercise territorial jurisdiction over one of its nationals for crimes committed abroad. This principle is widely accepted in drugs cases, but whether it would be equally accepted in paedophilia cases remains untested.
Then there is the concern over 'double jeopardy'. As Mr Anandan says, while a local who has sex with children overseas should be prosecuted when he returns home, the offender should not be convicted in two countries as it would not be fair to punish a person twice.
This sounds about right - but there is an exception for the worst crimes under the 'dual sovereignty' rule. That is, while a person should not be prosecuted twice for the same offence by the same sovereign, but if his act violates the laws of two sovereigns, it can then be seen as two distinct offences under the 'dual sovereignty' exception.
Thus, re-prosecution on coming home in such cases would not count as double jeopardy and could be permissible.
At any rate, in the real world, prosecutions rarely occur in the countries where child sex acts take place. Thus, local law would likely be prosecuting a Singaporean child sex tourist for the first time - without fear of double jeopardy.
This means that the Singapore Government could amend the law to cover child sex tourists under the active nationality principle, even re-prosecute them under the dual sovereignty exception. Yet it has not done so.
Why? Very practical reasons apply.
While most of the countries where the child sex trade occurs have laws prohibiting it, local law enforcement is lax. Poverty drives families to sell their own children into prostitution. Gathering evidence against a child sex offender under such circumstances would be a nightmare for any prosecutor, from Singapore or anywhere else.
For instance, both Australia and the United States have adopted laws against child sex tourists.
There is the Crimes (Child Sex Tourism) Amendment Act (CST Act) in Australia while the US has its Protect (Prosecutorial Remedies and other Tools to end the Exploitation of Children Today) Act.
However, both laws have seen only limited success. After a decade of enforcement, Australia has only charged 16 people and convicted a mere 11 of them.
Similarly, the US Protect Act itself was a 2003 update of the Child Sexual Abuse Prevention Act of 1994, under which only two US citizens were ever convicted.
If these experiences are anything to go by, a Singaporean amendment may fare no better as local prosecutors will face the same difficulties that hobble Australian and US prosecutors. Mr Lim points out four of them.
First, in gathering evidence abroad, investigators who are unfamiliar with the laws there may infringe upon them, leading to their own arrests or detentions. Moreover, the foreign jurisdiction may perceive its sovereignty to have been challenged, which could spark off a diplomatic spat.
Second, some countries make it difficult for foreign law enforcement officers to gather evidence on their soil. Until recently, the most common method of obtaining such evidence was a letter rogatory, a request by one court of a foreign counterpart for help in obtaining information. This has to pass through a long diplomatic chain, which may take a year or longer.
A newer alternative is the Mutual Legal Assistance in Criminal Matters treaty (MLAT). Last November, all Asean nations including Singapore - but not Thailand and Myanmar - signed a multilateral MLAT.
(Child sex tourism thrives in Thailand, the Philippines and Indonesia and is beginning to flourish in Cambodia and Vietnam.)
Even so, that treaty will come into effect only after it has been ratified by the respective governments. Still, MLATs are generally only available to prosecutors, while defence counsel must usually resort to letters rogatory to obtain evidence.
Third, whether resorting to letters rogatory or MLATs, while abroad, foreign law will still govern the standards of evidence gathering there. For example, a witness will testify according to his country's standards for criminal proceedings.
So a Singaporean consular officer might, in theory, be allowed by the host country to administer oaths to witnesses before recording their testimonies abroad. But while Thailand permits such voluntary depositions for some consulates, its witnesses are allowed - according to Thai practice - to refuse to take the oath.
Under such circumstances, Singaporean procedural safeguards when obtaining witness testimony may not be observed such that strict Singaporean statutory requirements may not be met.
Last, there are difficulties in locating witnesses, language barriers and the need for interpreters in the field and during the trial process itself. Dealing with child witnesses is also particularly difficult, especially those who have been abused sexually.
It all looks insuperable.
So shall we forget about adopting any child sex tourism law at all?
Not necessarily.
Adopting a law - like 32 nations other have done - will send a signal to Singaporeans who are planning child sex jaunts abroad that they will be prosecuted when they come home.
One option is for a law to focus on the organisers of child sex tours, in addition to the offenders themselves.
True, not much is known about local operators yet. In 1995, an Australian parliamentary investigation found no evidence to suggest that organised commercial ventures were involved there. Child sex tour 'operators' were thought to be paedophiles networking informally with others of their ilk to assist one another going overseas for child sex.
Today, however, as the Johns Hopkins University study has found, there are more than 100 websites promoting child sex tourism in Asia alone. Travel agents and website owners, it says, advertise child sex tours to hot spots in the Philippines, Thailand and Vietnam.
The study has also found that Singaporeans formed the largest group of sex tourists in the Riau islands, including Batam, where spending a night with a girl reportedly costs $40. Virgins, including the underaged, cost $500 each. In Batam, 3 per cent of its 6,600 prostitutes are underaged.
To match that supply with demand, it is not unlikely that tour organisers are already operating alone or in syndicates here. Ferreting them out is work cut out for law enforcement officials.
It makes sense to target profit-motivated operators as punitive fines and jail time could change their behaviour. Also, convicting one sex tourist removes but one perpetrator, while taking a tour organiser out of action hinders several child sex tourists at one go.
ST 2005.05.06
Time to put our foot down on the sex trade
By Braema Mathi
IT WAS a desperate call to a helpline from a man who wanted to free two young Thai sex workers from a Geylang brothel.
Their ordeal was horrible: They had a quota of 10 men per night; they were banned from going out; and they had to clear a debt of 10,000 baht (S$420) within two weeks before their social visit passes expired.
His account clearly showed the girls were forced into a situation and needed help. But they were afraid to seek it.
It would have meant filing charges against the brothel owner, and the Singapore and Thai agents. And they themselves risked jail terms for having worked illegally - in the sex trade to boot - while on a social visit pass.
These women never took up the offer of help. Their plight, and those of others, will remain unchanged until we review our approach to the trafficking of people.
Victim or criminal?
THE United Nations Protocol to Prevent, Suppress and Punish Trafficking in Persons, Especially Women and Children offers one such solution. Some 120 countries have signed it.
It defines the trafficked persons as victims, who were so vulnerable that they ended up being exploited, whether for the sex trade, or as slaves, or to have their organs removed.
The definition means the consent of the individual becomes irrelevant.
Instead, the trafficker is criminalised under this protocol, which is a supplement to the UN Convention on Transnational Organised Crime. Singapore is a signatory to this document.
Adopting this definition requires putting in place a legislative process to confiscate assets from traffickers to compensate victims.
A system of tracking and investigating violators through greater transnational cooperation will also be needed, as will support schemes to help the victims.
This way, the trafficked person may also be more willing to help in the investigations as she will not be treated as a criminal.
Singapore maintains there is minimal incidence of trafficked persons here. But using this broader definition may give rise to higher numbers.
The Ministry of Home Affairs (MHA) is making changes. It has said there is a need to accord greater protection to minors as they are not yet fully mature, physically or psychologically.
This is a positive sign.
We now need to extend this same approach to the protection of adults, who are also victims of trafficking.
But a bigger challenge is to review the definition of trafficking.
Lucrative global industry
THE global sex industry has been growing since the early 1990s and runs parallel to the entertainment, travel, leisure and gambling industries, often complementing each other.
Its growth is aided by the complicity of some sender countries, which depend on remittances by their women and children, and therefore do not take steps to be vigilant.
Some of those at the helm of the trafficking business are also major financial supporters of political parties and are hardly taken to task for their activities.
This industry will continue to grow because corruption, poverty, and the advent of easy and cheap travel will steer people into the trade, or to be its consumers.
Accurate data is hard to come by, but statistics from the International Organisation for Migration reveal that nearly one-third of the global trafficking trade - or about 200,000 to 250,000 women and children - is from South-east Asia.
It is also a lucrative business. Thai estimates showed the trade is at least three times more profitable than drug trafficking.
Regional action
IT WAS heartening that at the recent Conference on Trafficking held here, Asean secretary-general Ong Keng Yong spoke of instituting an Asean declaration to tackle this problem.
This has been on the cards for more than a year and I hope the process can be speeded up as there is already an Asean Centre for Combating Transnational Crime (ACTC) whose focus
includes looking into issues of trafficking.
Some terms of reference for the Asean Task Force could include brothel licensing criteria, dealing with corrupt officers, and criminalising traffickers and those in the travel businesses.
Strengthen laws here
WE HAVE always been very serious players when it comes to becoming signatories to conventions.
But we are found wanting when we align ourselves with some international treaties and not with others on the same issue.
For money laundering, we amended the Extradition Act to make certain serious crimes extraditable offences.
Yet we seem to fight shy of having the Extradition Act applied to those who travel to solicit sex with minors.
Our domestic laws are a deterrent and do protect our own women and children.
But these laws become meaningless if a Singaporean takes his violent ways to children in the region.
Equipping our laws with an extra-territorial jurisdiction provision means rapists may have to come home to face trial.
MHA's multi-agency committee is reviewing sexual offences currently prescribed in the Penal Code, Women's Charter and Children and Young Persons Act.
It will also be timely to review possibilities for extradition and strengthening laws to protect children and women caught in offshore sex industries.
While the State can play its part, we, too, need to question our values.
Is the Singapore male so irrepressible in his quest to have paid and casual sex that we tolerate the sex industry and have stopped asking our men why they persist in doing so.
Sweden has criminalised men who buy sex, and women who offer sex as prostitutes.
Yes, there will be some men who will move to other countries as travellers to get their quick fix.
But the message that resounds in Sweden for the majority of the population is one of respecting women and themselves.
Where will we stand on this, Singapore?
The writer, a former Nominated MP, is a visiting research fellow at the Institute of South-east Asian Studies (Gender Studies Programme). This is her personal comment.
Time to throw the book at child sex tour organisers
By Andy Ho
Senior Writer
RECENTLY, Temasek Polytechnic teacher Darwis Rianto Lim was arrested in Bangkok for allegedly trying to procure young boys for sex.
He is not the only Singaporean to have tried that. A recent Johns Hopkins study shows that some Singaporeans visit Batam for sex with girls as young as 14 years.
As domestic law stands at the moment, Singaporeans commit no offence when they have sex with children while overseas.
This is despite the urging of a number of people over the years to change the law. Last year, Home Affairs Minister Wong Kan Seng explained in Parliament that, even if there were such an amendment, implementing it to deter local child-sex tourists would be fraught with difficulties.
But not everyone is convinced. The president of the Association of Criminal Lawyers, Mr Subhas Anandan, points out that Singaporeans who take drugs elsewhere have been prosecuted when they returned home.
But the parallel between drug takers and paedophiles is far from perfect, for several reasons.
Mr Lim Hsin Hin, a Singaporean lawyer practising in London, points out that there is a principle of 'active nationality', which is recognised under international law, which makes it permissible for a government to exercise territorial jurisdiction over one of its nationals for crimes committed abroad. This principle is widely accepted in drugs cases, but whether it would be equally accepted in paedophilia cases remains untested.
Then there is the concern over 'double jeopardy'. As Mr Anandan says, while a local who has sex with children overseas should be prosecuted when he returns home, the offender should not be convicted in two countries as it would not be fair to punish a person twice.
This sounds about right - but there is an exception for the worst crimes under the 'dual sovereignty' rule. That is, while a person should not be prosecuted twice for the same offence by the same sovereign, but if his act violates the laws of two sovereigns, it can then be seen as two distinct offences under the 'dual sovereignty' exception.
Thus, re-prosecution on coming home in such cases would not count as double jeopardy and could be permissible.
At any rate, in the real world, prosecutions rarely occur in the countries where child sex acts take place. Thus, local law would likely be prosecuting a Singaporean child sex tourist for the first time - without fear of double jeopardy.
This means that the Singapore Government could amend the law to cover child sex tourists under the active nationality principle, even re-prosecute them under the dual sovereignty exception. Yet it has not done so.
Why? Very practical reasons apply.
While most of the countries where the child sex trade occurs have laws prohibiting it, local law enforcement is lax. Poverty drives families to sell their own children into prostitution. Gathering evidence against a child sex offender under such circumstances would be a nightmare for any prosecutor, from Singapore or anywhere else.
For instance, both Australia and the United States have adopted laws against child sex tourists.
There is the Crimes (Child Sex Tourism) Amendment Act (CST Act) in Australia while the US has its Protect (Prosecutorial Remedies and other Tools to end the Exploitation of Children Today) Act.
However, both laws have seen only limited success. After a decade of enforcement, Australia has only charged 16 people and convicted a mere 11 of them.
Similarly, the US Protect Act itself was a 2003 update of the Child Sexual Abuse Prevention Act of 1994, under which only two US citizens were ever convicted.
If these experiences are anything to go by, a Singaporean amendment may fare no better as local prosecutors will face the same difficulties that hobble Australian and US prosecutors. Mr Lim points out four of them.
First, in gathering evidence abroad, investigators who are unfamiliar with the laws there may infringe upon them, leading to their own arrests or detentions. Moreover, the foreign jurisdiction may perceive its sovereignty to have been challenged, which could spark off a diplomatic spat.
Second, some countries make it difficult for foreign law enforcement officers to gather evidence on their soil. Until recently, the most common method of obtaining such evidence was a letter rogatory, a request by one court of a foreign counterpart for help in obtaining information. This has to pass through a long diplomatic chain, which may take a year or longer.
A newer alternative is the Mutual Legal Assistance in Criminal Matters treaty (MLAT). Last November, all Asean nations including Singapore - but not Thailand and Myanmar - signed a multilateral MLAT.
(Child sex tourism thrives in Thailand, the Philippines and Indonesia and is beginning to flourish in Cambodia and Vietnam.)
Even so, that treaty will come into effect only after it has been ratified by the respective governments. Still, MLATs are generally only available to prosecutors, while defence counsel must usually resort to letters rogatory to obtain evidence.
Third, whether resorting to letters rogatory or MLATs, while abroad, foreign law will still govern the standards of evidence gathering there. For example, a witness will testify according to his country's standards for criminal proceedings.
So a Singaporean consular officer might, in theory, be allowed by the host country to administer oaths to witnesses before recording their testimonies abroad. But while Thailand permits such voluntary depositions for some consulates, its witnesses are allowed - according to Thai practice - to refuse to take the oath.
Under such circumstances, Singaporean procedural safeguards when obtaining witness testimony may not be observed such that strict Singaporean statutory requirements may not be met.
Last, there are difficulties in locating witnesses, language barriers and the need for interpreters in the field and during the trial process itself. Dealing with child witnesses is also particularly difficult, especially those who have been abused sexually.
It all looks insuperable.
So shall we forget about adopting any child sex tourism law at all?
Not necessarily.
Adopting a law - like 32 nations other have done - will send a signal to Singaporeans who are planning child sex jaunts abroad that they will be prosecuted when they come home.
One option is for a law to focus on the organisers of child sex tours, in addition to the offenders themselves.
True, not much is known about local operators yet. In 1995, an Australian parliamentary investigation found no evidence to suggest that organised commercial ventures were involved there. Child sex tour 'operators' were thought to be paedophiles networking informally with others of their ilk to assist one another going overseas for child sex.
Today, however, as the Johns Hopkins University study has found, there are more than 100 websites promoting child sex tourism in Asia alone. Travel agents and website owners, it says, advertise child sex tours to hot spots in the Philippines, Thailand and Vietnam.
The study has also found that Singaporeans formed the largest group of sex tourists in the Riau islands, including Batam, where spending a night with a girl reportedly costs $40. Virgins, including the underaged, cost $500 each. In Batam, 3 per cent of its 6,600 prostitutes are underaged.
To match that supply with demand, it is not unlikely that tour organisers are already operating alone or in syndicates here. Ferreting them out is work cut out for law enforcement officials.
It makes sense to target profit-motivated operators as punitive fines and jail time could change their behaviour. Also, convicting one sex tourist removes but one perpetrator, while taking a tour organiser out of action hinders several child sex tourists at one go.
ST 2005.05.06
Time to put our foot down on the sex trade
By Braema Mathi
IT WAS a desperate call to a helpline from a man who wanted to free two young Thai sex workers from a Geylang brothel.
Their ordeal was horrible: They had a quota of 10 men per night; they were banned from going out; and they had to clear a debt of 10,000 baht (S$420) within two weeks before their social visit passes expired.
His account clearly showed the girls were forced into a situation and needed help. But they were afraid to seek it.
It would have meant filing charges against the brothel owner, and the Singapore and Thai agents. And they themselves risked jail terms for having worked illegally - in the sex trade to boot - while on a social visit pass.
These women never took up the offer of help. Their plight, and those of others, will remain unchanged until we review our approach to the trafficking of people.
Victim or criminal?
THE United Nations Protocol to Prevent, Suppress and Punish Trafficking in Persons, Especially Women and Children offers one such solution. Some 120 countries have signed it.
It defines the trafficked persons as victims, who were so vulnerable that they ended up being exploited, whether for the sex trade, or as slaves, or to have their organs removed.
The definition means the consent of the individual becomes irrelevant.
Instead, the trafficker is criminalised under this protocol, which is a supplement to the UN Convention on Transnational Organised Crime. Singapore is a signatory to this document.
Adopting this definition requires putting in place a legislative process to confiscate assets from traffickers to compensate victims.
A system of tracking and investigating violators through greater transnational cooperation will also be needed, as will support schemes to help the victims.
This way, the trafficked person may also be more willing to help in the investigations as she will not be treated as a criminal.
Singapore maintains there is minimal incidence of trafficked persons here. But using this broader definition may give rise to higher numbers.
The Ministry of Home Affairs (MHA) is making changes. It has said there is a need to accord greater protection to minors as they are not yet fully mature, physically or psychologically.
This is a positive sign.
We now need to extend this same approach to the protection of adults, who are also victims of trafficking.
But a bigger challenge is to review the definition of trafficking.
Lucrative global industry
THE global sex industry has been growing since the early 1990s and runs parallel to the entertainment, travel, leisure and gambling industries, often complementing each other.
Its growth is aided by the complicity of some sender countries, which depend on remittances by their women and children, and therefore do not take steps to be vigilant.
Some of those at the helm of the trafficking business are also major financial supporters of political parties and are hardly taken to task for their activities.
This industry will continue to grow because corruption, poverty, and the advent of easy and cheap travel will steer people into the trade, or to be its consumers.
Accurate data is hard to come by, but statistics from the International Organisation for Migration reveal that nearly one-third of the global trafficking trade - or about 200,000 to 250,000 women and children - is from South-east Asia.
It is also a lucrative business. Thai estimates showed the trade is at least three times more profitable than drug trafficking.
Regional action
IT WAS heartening that at the recent Conference on Trafficking held here, Asean secretary-general Ong Keng Yong spoke of instituting an Asean declaration to tackle this problem.
This has been on the cards for more than a year and I hope the process can be speeded up as there is already an Asean Centre for Combating Transnational Crime (ACTC) whose focus
includes looking into issues of trafficking.
Some terms of reference for the Asean Task Force could include brothel licensing criteria, dealing with corrupt officers, and criminalising traffickers and those in the travel businesses.
Strengthen laws here
WE HAVE always been very serious players when it comes to becoming signatories to conventions.
But we are found wanting when we align ourselves with some international treaties and not with others on the same issue.
For money laundering, we amended the Extradition Act to make certain serious crimes extraditable offences.
Yet we seem to fight shy of having the Extradition Act applied to those who travel to solicit sex with minors.
Our domestic laws are a deterrent and do protect our own women and children.
But these laws become meaningless if a Singaporean takes his violent ways to children in the region.
Equipping our laws with an extra-territorial jurisdiction provision means rapists may have to come home to face trial.
MHA's multi-agency committee is reviewing sexual offences currently prescribed in the Penal Code, Women's Charter and Children and Young Persons Act.
It will also be timely to review possibilities for extradition and strengthening laws to protect children and women caught in offshore sex industries.
While the State can play its part, we, too, need to question our values.
Is the Singapore male so irrepressible in his quest to have paid and casual sex that we tolerate the sex industry and have stopped asking our men why they persist in doing so.
Sweden has criminalised men who buy sex, and women who offer sex as prostitutes.
Yes, there will be some men who will move to other countries as travellers to get their quick fix.
But the message that resounds in Sweden for the majority of the population is one of respecting women and themselves.
Where will we stand on this, Singapore?
The writer, a former Nominated MP, is a visiting research fellow at the Institute of South-east Asian Studies (Gender Studies Programme). This is her personal comment.
Wednesday, May 04, 2005
难以忘记的脚车经验和体会。。。
这次的经验和体会和她们的有一点不同。。。因为我一直垫底。。。没能和你们一起骑。。。我很努力的骑。。。我知道我在途中不能放弃，不过我到resort 时， 我真的想在隔天搭cab 回。。。因为我不想连累大家。。。可是我又不甘心。。。我真的很怕自己撑不下去。。。一直一直骑。。。心里一直想为什么我要如此的折磨自己。。。唯一感到欣慰的是有他一直在我身旁不停的说话。。。不知他会不会渴。。。他不时的说“有车来了进去一点 go left。。。”。。。他还记得我分不清左右。。。不过他有时自己都会把 left right 搞错。。。hahhahhaaa =)
在那好像永无止境的 upslopes 时，我很想放弃。。。不知是在哪个upslope 我停下脚车，想喘口气，没有亭子也没有树。。。我站在那，想坐下可是没有地方可以坐。。。他站在旁边，“靠着我。。。”。。。我靠着他， 等着如和龙。。。“r u ok?”。。。我摇着头。。。他抱着我。。。可以依赖他我很开心。。。
不知道为什么他一直都没放弃我。。。谢谢你。。。
回去的路程虽然有很多 downslopes 可是我的 knees 一开始就有点不对劲。。。在 downslope 我也一直战战兢兢的因为很怕会跌倒。。。一直放不下那心里的恐惧。。。撑到最后的五公里我好想哭。。。膝盖真的好痛好痛。。。我知道如果我停我一定骑不下去，也会哭。。。他问我要不要休息。。。我一直没回答他。。。我知道他有点担心。。。我终于摇了摇头，拼命的骑。。。咬着下唇， 骑呀骑。。。看到 nee, 在那一刻眼泪差点掉下。。。他想拍照可我一心直想马上下车坐下，我叫他去拍，自己先进去。。。一到里面 Alvin 说没有票。。。我没什么感觉，只是很高兴终于骑完了。。。没船也没关系。。。搭 cab loh。。。
后记：他还欠我一只冰棒。。。谢谢大家没有嫌弃我骑得那么慢。。。谢谢 nee 4 organising tis trip。。。我知道如果他不在你们也会照顾我，谢谢。。。谢谢大师兄的熊与鳄鱼笑话。。。谢谢 junwei 的 mini astronomy class。。。谢谢你们那么好笑的尖叫声。。。谢谢那美丽的 nite sky 和 sunrise。。。谢谢大家。。。=)
在那好像永无止境的 upslopes 时，我很想放弃。。。不知是在哪个upslope 我停下脚车，想喘口气，没有亭子也没有树。。。我站在那，想坐下可是没有地方可以坐。。。他站在旁边，“靠着我。。。”。。。我靠着他， 等着如和龙。。。“r u ok?”。。。我摇着头。。。他抱着我。。。可以依赖他我很开心。。。
不知道为什么他一直都没放弃我。。。谢谢你。。。
回去的路程虽然有很多 downslopes 可是我的 knees 一开始就有点不对劲。。。在 downslope 我也一直战战兢兢的因为很怕会跌倒。。。一直放不下那心里的恐惧。。。撑到最后的五公里我好想哭。。。膝盖真的好痛好痛。。。我知道如果我停我一定骑不下去，也会哭。。。他问我要不要休息。。。我一直没回答他。。。我知道他有点担心。。。我终于摇了摇头，拼命的骑。。。咬着下唇， 骑呀骑。。。看到 nee, 在那一刻眼泪差点掉下。。。他想拍照可我一心直想马上下车坐下，我叫他去拍，自己先进去。。。一到里面 Alvin 说没有票。。。我没什么感觉，只是很高兴终于骑完了。。。没船也没关系。。。搭 cab loh。。。
后记：他还欠我一只冰棒。。。谢谢大家没有嫌弃我骑得那么慢。。。谢谢 nee 4 organising tis trip。。。我知道如果他不在你们也会照顾我，谢谢。。。谢谢大师兄的熊与鳄鱼笑话。。。谢谢 junwei 的 mini astronomy class。。。谢谢你们那么好笑的尖叫声。。。谢谢那美丽的 nite sky 和 sunrise。。。谢谢大家。。。=)
Tuesday, May 03, 2005
i dunno how i feel.....
i dunno how i feel or wat i'm tinking at all.....do u feel disappted in me??? seriously i dunno wat i'm feeling at all cos i dun feel at all.....& i dun even tink.....i dunno i dunno i dunno.....i feel sad tt i feel tis way & i feel sad tt i can only tell u tis much....all i know is tt i dun 1 2 hurt u.....i feel so disappted in myself....i like it when i'm wif u.....tt's all tt i know.....i worry when u didnt return....i'm upset when u dun reply......i 1 2 c u when u r away......i look fwd 2 c-ing u.....i like it when u encouraged me....even though i know i wldn't give up....i like it when u try so hard.....i appreciate it....a lot....really....i feel bad....even though u said u enjoyed urself....i really hope u did....i like it when u try 2 make me feel beta....i know u try....i'm juz hard 2 please....i'm sorry....i say tt a lot in my blog....u said sorry.....i dun tink it's necessary....
i dun tink i 1 2 let u read all these....but i'm glad u let me read ur blog....although it's all past entries...at least i got 2 know a little more abt u....even though it's things u've told me b4....not even 2 mths....we dun even know each other 4 >2mths.....serious.....y did we walk so far????have we walked 2 far????my god......i hate myself......
i dun tink i 1 2 let u read all these....but i'm glad u let me read ur blog....although it's all past entries...at least i got 2 know a little more abt u....even though it's things u've told me b4....not even 2 mths....we dun even know each other 4 >2mths.....serious.....y did we walk so far????have we walked 2 far????my god......i hate myself......
Thursday, April 28, 2005
幸福很简单...
我不是要幸灾乐祸不过每次我听到人家的不幸我都觉得自己好幸福。。。很庆幸自己的幸运。。。很感谢让我一直都那么快乐的每一个人。。。我也希望每一个人都会幸福快乐。。。能应为一个美丽的早晨；一个搞笑的地铁乘客；或应为还能睁开眼睛看到这世界而快乐，我觉得那就足够了吧。。。我希望每个人都能那么想那这世界就会快乐许多。。。我可以做到我相信每个人都能。。。
Wednesday, April 27, 2005
Jerk It Out by The Caesars
Wind me up
Put me down
Start me off and watch me go
I'll be runnin' circles around you sooner than you know
A little off center
And I'm out of tune
Just kickin' this can along the avenue
But I'm alright
Cause it's easy once you know how it's done
You can't stop now
It's already begun
You feel it runnin' through your bones
And you jerk it out
And you jerk it out
Shut up
Hush your mouth
Can't you hear you talk too loud?
No can't hear nothin' 'cause I got my head up in the clouds
I bite off anything that I can chew
I'm chasing cars up and down the avenue
But that's ok
Cause it's easy once you know how it's done
You can't stop now
It's already begun
You feel it runnin' through your bones
And you jerk it out
Cause it's easy once you know how it's done
You can't stop now
It's already begun
You feel it runnin' through your bones
And you jerk it out
And you jerk it out
And you jerk it out
And you jerk it out
And you jerk it out
Oh baby don't you know you
Really gotta jerk it out
When you jerk it out
Oh baby don't you know you
Really gotta jerk it out
When you jerk it out
Oh baby don't you know you
Really gotta jerk it out
Put me down
Start me off and watch me go
I'll be runnin' circles around you sooner than you know
A little off center
And I'm out of tune
Just kickin' this can along the avenue
But I'm alright
Cause it's easy once you know how it's done
You can't stop now
It's already begun
You feel it runnin' through your bones
And you jerk it out
And you jerk it out
Shut up
Hush your mouth
Can't you hear you talk too loud?
No can't hear nothin' 'cause I got my head up in the clouds
I bite off anything that I can chew
I'm chasing cars up and down the avenue
But that's ok
Cause it's easy once you know how it's done
You can't stop now
It's already begun
You feel it runnin' through your bones
And you jerk it out
Cause it's easy once you know how it's done
You can't stop now
It's already begun
You feel it runnin' through your bones
And you jerk it out
And you jerk it out
And you jerk it out
And you jerk it out
And you jerk it out
Oh baby don't you know you
Really gotta jerk it out
When you jerk it out
Oh baby don't you know you
Really gotta jerk it out
When you jerk it out
Oh baby don't you know you
Really gotta jerk it out
Dakota by the Stereophonics.....
e lyrics made me tink o different pple...
Thinking about thinking of you
Some of the time thinking it was due
Yeah thinking it was due.
Laying back, head on the grass
Children grown having some laughs
Yeah having some laughs.
Made me feel like the one
Made me feel like the one
The one
Made me feel like the one
Made me feel like the one
The one
Drinking back, drinking for two
Drinking with you
And drinking was new
Sleeping in the back of my car
Never went far
Needed to go far
Made me feel like the one
Made me feel like the one
The one
Made me feel like the one
Made me feel like the one
The one
I don’t know where we are going no
I don’t know where we are going no
Wake up for coffee and juice
Remembering you
What happened to you?
I wonder if we’ll meet again
Talk about us instead
Talk about why did it end
Made me feel like the one
Made me feel like the one
The one
Made me feel like the one
Made me feel like the one
The one
I don’t know where we are going no
I don’t know where we are going no
So take a look at me now
Thinking about thinking of you
Some of the time thinking it was due
Yeah thinking it was due.
Laying back, head on the grass
Children grown having some laughs
Yeah having some laughs.
Made me feel like the one
Made me feel like the one
The one
Made me feel like the one
Made me feel like the one
The one
Drinking back, drinking for two
Drinking with you
And drinking was new
Sleeping in the back of my car
Never went far
Needed to go far
Made me feel like the one
Made me feel like the one
The one
Made me feel like the one
Made me feel like the one
The one
I don’t know where we are going no
I don’t know where we are going no
Wake up for coffee and juice
Remembering you
What happened to you?
I wonder if we’ll meet again
Talk about us instead
Talk about why did it end
Made me feel like the one
Made me feel like the one
The one
Made me feel like the one
Made me feel like the one
The one
I don’t know where we are going no
I don’t know where we are going no
So take a look at me now
Tuesday, April 26, 2005
i dunno....
my mom sort o found out abt my new rs....she asked my sis 2 ask me if my bf was tt young....i didn't reaffirm....i asked my sis, 3T, who said it...den i found out tt 1 o my sis, J, saw us at west coast & told my mom tt he looked v young, younger den 3T....but i dun really buy tt story....i tink S probably told J, & she told mom....but i dun 1 2 pursue e matter...i juz told J 2 tell mom tt everything is still immature & i dun 1 2 talk abt it....
he told me 2 not get angry wif my sis & 2 talk 2 my mom when i told him tt my mom found out abt him...
i dunno if i'm angry actually...i tink i'm not...juz tt i dunno wat 2 say abt e rs...till now i still have no idea how i feel actually....everytime i go v quiet, he'll ask me wat i'm tinking....if i've anything 2 say 2 him....i know i dun tell him a lot abt my feelings....cos i dunno wat 2 say or how i feel or even wat i tink... seriously i dunno...i dun 1 2 tink...but smehow i still nd 2 tink...
y is it never easy....y is it always so confusing....y do i have 2 tink abt these????do u really 've 2 tink abt things????
i like it tt we do spontaneous things....we had no idea wat 2 do ytd....i 1ed 2 eat mos burger so we went 2 PS...after tt we decided 2 catch a movie but nothing was interesting & e shows were late....so he suggested gg 2 s'pore river 2 walk walk....as we walked 2 e mrt, i remembered fort canning park, where we had e wmd, so i suggested walking there...kind o tough walking cos we juz had dinner....e place was quiet & nice...away fr e hustle & bustle...it's a really nice place except 4 e occasional mosquito.....walk walk walk...i've no idea where 2 go....den we saw e g-max....
i told him b4 tt i 1ed 2 try tt....so he said we shld go try....& we did....i did a whole load o screaming....although it wasn't as fun as skydiving....but i had fun....i didn't 1 e vcd cos i was so ugly but we got tt free & he kept it....
he keeps a lot o stuff...every little thing he keeps....he did ask me 2 keep but i told him i dun 1....i know he's v thoughtful & he treasures little little things...it's not tt i dun 1 2 treasure all these but i really dun 've e space 2 keep all these things...& i juz 1 2 keep e memory inside my small little brain...
it's sweet tt he does little acts 4 me...but i tink i never show him tt i appreciate it...serious, i dun tink i'm tt xi xin....i dun like soft toys, i dun like chocolates, i dun like little momentos....i wld rather keep everything in my heart & mind....he asked me abt my fav color etc...but i never bother 2 ask him....even when he mentions it i tink i probably 4got abt it...
my colics said tt they'll remember every little thing tt their partners say...ok so i'll try 2 make tt effort!!! i'm sorry dear....& i always poke fun at him....& i give him tt duh look everytime he say smething lame or stupid....ok i'm not tt great in my role as a gf....sorry.....
he told me 2 not get angry wif my sis & 2 talk 2 my mom when i told him tt my mom found out abt him...
i dunno if i'm angry actually...i tink i'm not...juz tt i dunno wat 2 say abt e rs...till now i still have no idea how i feel actually....everytime i go v quiet, he'll ask me wat i'm tinking....if i've anything 2 say 2 him....i know i dun tell him a lot abt my feelings....cos i dunno wat 2 say or how i feel or even wat i tink... seriously i dunno...i dun 1 2 tink...but smehow i still nd 2 tink...
y is it never easy....y is it always so confusing....y do i have 2 tink abt these????do u really 've 2 tink abt things????
i like it tt we do spontaneous things....we had no idea wat 2 do ytd....i 1ed 2 eat mos burger so we went 2 PS...after tt we decided 2 catch a movie but nothing was interesting & e shows were late....so he suggested gg 2 s'pore river 2 walk walk....as we walked 2 e mrt, i remembered fort canning park, where we had e wmd, so i suggested walking there...kind o tough walking cos we juz had dinner....e place was quiet & nice...away fr e hustle & bustle...it's a really nice place except 4 e occasional mosquito.....walk walk walk...i've no idea where 2 go....den we saw e g-max....
i told him b4 tt i 1ed 2 try tt....so he said we shld go try....& we did....i did a whole load o screaming....although it wasn't as fun as skydiving....but i had fun....i didn't 1 e vcd cos i was so ugly but we got tt free & he kept it....
he keeps a lot o stuff...every little thing he keeps....he did ask me 2 keep but i told him i dun 1....i know he's v thoughtful & he treasures little little things...it's not tt i dun 1 2 treasure all these but i really dun 've e space 2 keep all these things...& i juz 1 2 keep e memory inside my small little brain...
it's sweet tt he does little acts 4 me...but i tink i never show him tt i appreciate it...serious, i dun tink i'm tt xi xin....i dun like soft toys, i dun like chocolates, i dun like little momentos....i wld rather keep everything in my heart & mind....he asked me abt my fav color etc...but i never bother 2 ask him....even when he mentions it i tink i probably 4got abt it...
my colics said tt they'll remember every little thing tt their partners say...ok so i'll try 2 make tt effort!!! i'm sorry dear....& i always poke fun at him....& i give him tt duh look everytime he say smething lame or stupid....ok i'm not tt great in my role as a gf....sorry.....
Monday, April 25, 2005
You Are 22 Years Old |
22 Under 12: You are a kid at heart. You still have an optimistic life view - and you look at the world with awe. 13-19: You are a teenager at heart. You question authority and are still trying to find your place in this world. 20-29: You are a twentysomething at heart. You feel excited about what's to come... love, work, and new experiences. 30-39: You are a thirtysomething at heart. You've had a taste of success and true love, but you want more! 40+: You are a mature adult. You've been through most of the ups and downs of life already. Now you get to sit back and relax. |
Tuesday, April 19, 2005
so excited....
every1 seem so excited & happy tt i've got sme1 special in my life.....every1 looked so excited!!!!it's as though i struck 4D......his friends were equally excited looking..... i find it a little amusing actually.....dunno if it's cos every1 ard me is so excited tt i dun feel tt much excitement.....we've decided 2 go buy 4D 2gather.....i'm such a bad influence, getting him 2 gamble!!!! hahhaahaa....hope i really strike 4D!!!!cross fingers, cross toes.....
Monday, April 18, 2005
我不知道
我也不知道我自己要什么。。。她说她感觉不到应有的兴奋。。。她问我是否准备好了。。。我真的不知道。。。说完后，我一直觉得头麻痹。。。一直无法清楚的想。。。事情发生得真的快了些。。。他也有同感。。。不过，我们决定想一起走走。。。我很高兴他很迁就我，很想知道我的看法。。。可能我真的没好好说出自己的想法吧。。。可能我自己到 现在都无法真的相信所有发生的事。。。他也无法相信。。。我的脑袋里一直空荡荡的。。。不知道是否是因为太累。。。我让他做主，无须我想。。。他让我觉得开心。。。可我会不知不觉的想到我们之间的不同。。。特别是在朋友群中。。。他很大方。。。我很欣赏这点。。。他会让我把不同忘了。。。让我觉得无须解释。。。我很想让他知道我很开心，不知道他是否感觉得到我和他在一起的快乐。。。快乐就好吧。。。不同只是自己和社会设定的吧。。。真的无须理会别人的看法。。。自己快乐真的才是最重要。。。不必TTM。。。我应该卸下TTMG President 的 position 4 a while....so VP pls take charge o e club while I 闭关修练 4 a while....
fell off my chair....
ε Θ )ß Yollev Torchic says:
THEN THEN THEN i tot it should be gone.. i mean fly out
...e tiredness o e physical overtook e eagerness o e mental.... says:
flew bk in?
...e tiredness o e physical overtook e eagerness o e mental.... says:
ahhahaa
ε Θ )ß Yollev Torchic says:
THEN THEN 2 days later i found it dead lying outside my store room hahaha
ε Θ )ß Yollev Torchic says:
i dunno why dead haha
...e tiredness o e physical overtook e eagerness o e mental.... says:
how u know it's e same?
ε Θ )ß Yollev Torchic says:
i wan to ask my family did they kill the cockroach
ε Θ )ß Yollev Torchic says:
haha that's a good question
...e tiredness o e physical overtook e eagerness o e mental.... says:
hahhahaa
ε Θ )ß Yollev Torchic says:
i always tot it's the same one cos of the size haha....
...e tiredness o e physical overtook e eagerness o e mental.... says:
i fall off chair!
...e tiredness o e physical overtook e eagerness o e mental.... says:
_ _
...e tiredness o e physical overtook e eagerness o e mental.... says:
i dunno wat 2 say......
...e tiredness o e physical overtook e eagerness o e mental.... says:
_ _
ε Θ )ß Yollev Torchic says:
fine
...e tiredness o e physical overtook e eagerness o e mental.... says:
ahahhaaaa....
ε Θ )ß Yollev Torchic says:
i still rem the cockroach so i tot it mite be it
THEN THEN THEN i tot it should be gone.. i mean fly out
...e tiredness o e physical overtook e eagerness o e mental.... says:
flew bk in?
...e tiredness o e physical overtook e eagerness o e mental.... says:
ahhahaa
ε Θ )ß Yollev Torchic says:
THEN THEN 2 days later i found it dead lying outside my store room hahaha
ε Θ )ß Yollev Torchic says:
i dunno why dead haha
...e tiredness o e physical overtook e eagerness o e mental.... says:
how u know it's e same?
ε Θ )ß Yollev Torchic says:
i wan to ask my family did they kill the cockroach
ε Θ )ß Yollev Torchic says:
haha that's a good question
...e tiredness o e physical overtook e eagerness o e mental.... says:
hahhahaa
ε Θ )ß Yollev Torchic says:
i always tot it's the same one cos of the size haha....
...e tiredness o e physical overtook e eagerness o e mental.... says:
i fall off chair!
...e tiredness o e physical overtook e eagerness o e mental.... says:
_ _
...e tiredness o e physical overtook e eagerness o e mental.... says:
i dunno wat 2 say......
...e tiredness o e physical overtook e eagerness o e mental.... says:
_ _
ε Θ )ß Yollev Torchic says:
fine
...e tiredness o e physical overtook e eagerness o e mental.... says:
ahahhaaaa....
ε Θ )ß Yollev Torchic says:
i still rem the cockroach so i tot it mite be it
April 18, 2005
UPFRONT
US child sex criminals getting away with it
By Paul Zach
Straits Times US Bureau
CLEVELAND (OHIO) - LITTLE Jessica Lunsford was a picture of happy innocence.
A photograph of the nine-year-old smiling under a fuzzy pink hat was broadcast repeatedly on TV across the United States after she disappeared from her bed one night in late February.
All the publicity raised hopes that Jessica would quickly be found. But as the days passed, the optimism turned to dread.
Singaporeans experienced the same feelings last year after seeing pictures of Huang Na, the
eight-year-old from China who disappeared. Hope turned to horror when her tiny body was found crammed into a cardboard box at Telok Blangah Hill Park.
Police here in the US dug up Jessica's body too, behind a neighbour's house just 150m from her bedroom in Homossasa, Florida.
Not only is she believed to have been sexually assaulted, but she may have been buried alive, CNN and Fox News said.
Such crimes against children happen all too often in the US.
Last week, 13-year-old Sarah Lunde was reported missing from home, not far from where Jessica disappeared. Police say a body found in a pond at an abandoned fishing camp on Saturday is almost certainly hers.
Each week the National Centre For Missing & Exploited Children sends cards bearing photos of children who have vanished to 79 million homes across the country each week.
It reports that in 1999, the latest year studied, 58,200 children were abducted by non-family members. It also said that one in five girls and one in 10 boys in this country are exploited sexually, and less than 35 per cent of those assaults are reported.
Another study reported by the centre revealed that about 100 children who go missing are found dead each year.
In fact, as Florida police were digging up Jessica's body, 10-year-old Jetseta Gage was kidnapped from her home in Cedar Rapids, Iowa. Her body was found the next day in a mobile home.
In Massillon, Ohio, a predator has tried to abduct nine children since February.
In one case, the man pulled his car into a driveway where a six-year-old boy was playing alone and held out a bag of sweets. The boy's father came to the rescue, but the man sped away.
In the same city in the 1980s, two little girls were raped and murdered. In one of those cases, a neighbour was sentenced to death for killing seven-year-old Marie Hendershot. But the Governor of Ohio commuted the sentence to life in prison.
And there's the rub.
Few would disagree with the view that the American penal and legal system is increasingly weighted in favour of criminals at the expense of victims, even when they are children.
Court rulings have made it difficult for prosecutors to win convictions, and even those who are convicted are soon on the streets again.
Investigators say a convicted sex offender, John Evander Couey, 46, has confessed to abducting and killing Jessica.
The drifter had already been arrested 24 times, including on a 1991 charge of fondling a child.
He had absconded more than once and, at the time of Jessica's disappearance, was wanted for a parole violation.
Jetseta's body was found in a mobile home with Roger Bentley, 37, police said, and he has been charged with her murder. He had already served two years in prison for abusing another child.
In the case of Sarah's disappearance, police are interviewing yet another sex offender - one of 24 who lived in her neighbourhood.
Jessica's father Mark, and Roy Brown, whose 7-year-old daughter, Amanda, was killed by a convicted child molester in 1997, had both joined the search for Sarah.
It took an earlier case involving a little girl before many Americans were even allowed to know that such sex offenders roamed freely in their midst.
In 1995, Megan Kanka, a seven-year-old New Jersey girl, was raped and murdered by a convicted child molester who lived across the street.
Her parents did not know he was there: nothing in the law protected Megan, but a law shielded the murderer, preventing police from releasing sex-offender information on him.
A public outcry led to Megan's Law. It now allows public access to such information, including on the Internet.
Just a year later, however, nine-year-old Amber Hagerman was riding her bike near her home in Arlington, Texas, singing America The Beautiful, when a man in a truck snatched her.
Four days later, her body was found in a ditch, her throat cut.
Concerned citizens again responded, helping set up the Amber Alert, in which Americans nationwide are informed over TV and radio whenever a child is abducted.
The system has helped recover 198 children since it was established, according to Mr Jim Libonati of the National Centre For Missing & Exploited Children.
Still, neither effort saved Jessica or Jetseta, and many Americans are now taking a harder look at their legal system.
An alert on the Congress.org website noted that while Jessica and Jetseta were being murdered, most politicians were focused on the case of the court-ordered removal of a feeding tube from the brain-damaged Mrs Terri Schiavo.
It pointed out that, unlike in the Schiavo case, there had been no special legislative sessions or emergency convening of Congress or state politicians for either girl. It urged Congress: 'Please strongly consider immediately discussing legislation that will allow for stricter sentencing guidelines, and monitoring of sexual offenders.'
Congressman Ginny Brown-Waite presented a proposal last week for new federal sex offender legislation named for yet another victim, the Jessica Lunsford Act. Yet what's still not getting enough attention is making sure that justice is done right from the start.
That was highlighted recently here in Cleveland.
Despite considerable evidence against him, a jury acquitted Mr Daniel Hines, 26, of the rape, murder and dismemberment of 11-year-old Shakira Johnson.
After three days of deliberations the jury asked the judge for a definition of 'reasonable doubt' - American juries are told by courts they cannot convict a person if they have such a doubt.
Last month, he was put on trial again, this time for trying to rape his 13-year-old cousin. The court heard that when her brother and a friend, Marine Private Brandon Sloan, tried to stop him, he attacked them.
Pte Sloan confirmed all that in court. But after 12 hours of deliberations, the judge declared a hung jury.
Mr Hines was cleared again.
UPFRONT
US child sex criminals getting away with it
By Paul Zach
Straits Times US Bureau
CLEVELAND (OHIO) - LITTLE Jessica Lunsford was a picture of happy innocence.
A photograph of the nine-year-old smiling under a fuzzy pink hat was broadcast repeatedly on TV across the United States after she disappeared from her bed one night in late February.
All the publicity raised hopes that Jessica would quickly be found. But as the days passed, the optimism turned to dread.
Singaporeans experienced the same feelings last year after seeing pictures of Huang Na, the
eight-year-old from China who disappeared. Hope turned to horror when her tiny body was found crammed into a cardboard box at Telok Blangah Hill Park.
Police here in the US dug up Jessica's body too, behind a neighbour's house just 150m from her bedroom in Homossasa, Florida.
Not only is she believed to have been sexually assaulted, but she may have been buried alive, CNN and Fox News said.
Such crimes against children happen all too often in the US.
Last week, 13-year-old Sarah Lunde was reported missing from home, not far from where Jessica disappeared. Police say a body found in a pond at an abandoned fishing camp on Saturday is almost certainly hers.
Each week the National Centre For Missing & Exploited Children sends cards bearing photos of children who have vanished to 79 million homes across the country each week.
It reports that in 1999, the latest year studied, 58,200 children were abducted by non-family members. It also said that one in five girls and one in 10 boys in this country are exploited sexually, and less than 35 per cent of those assaults are reported.
Another study reported by the centre revealed that about 100 children who go missing are found dead each year.
In fact, as Florida police were digging up Jessica's body, 10-year-old Jetseta Gage was kidnapped from her home in Cedar Rapids, Iowa. Her body was found the next day in a mobile home.
In Massillon, Ohio, a predator has tried to abduct nine children since February.
In one case, the man pulled his car into a driveway where a six-year-old boy was playing alone and held out a bag of sweets. The boy's father came to the rescue, but the man sped away.
In the same city in the 1980s, two little girls were raped and murdered. In one of those cases, a neighbour was sentenced to death for killing seven-year-old Marie Hendershot. But the Governor of Ohio commuted the sentence to life in prison.
And there's the rub.
Few would disagree with the view that the American penal and legal system is increasingly weighted in favour of criminals at the expense of victims, even when they are children.
Court rulings have made it difficult for prosecutors to win convictions, and even those who are convicted are soon on the streets again.
Investigators say a convicted sex offender, John Evander Couey, 46, has confessed to abducting and killing Jessica.
The drifter had already been arrested 24 times, including on a 1991 charge of fondling a child.
He had absconded more than once and, at the time of Jessica's disappearance, was wanted for a parole violation.
Jetseta's body was found in a mobile home with Roger Bentley, 37, police said, and he has been charged with her murder. He had already served two years in prison for abusing another child.
In the case of Sarah's disappearance, police are interviewing yet another sex offender - one of 24 who lived in her neighbourhood.
Jessica's father Mark, and Roy Brown, whose 7-year-old daughter, Amanda, was killed by a convicted child molester in 1997, had both joined the search for Sarah.
It took an earlier case involving a little girl before many Americans were even allowed to know that such sex offenders roamed freely in their midst.
In 1995, Megan Kanka, a seven-year-old New Jersey girl, was raped and murdered by a convicted child molester who lived across the street.
Her parents did not know he was there: nothing in the law protected Megan, but a law shielded the murderer, preventing police from releasing sex-offender information on him.
A public outcry led to Megan's Law. It now allows public access to such information, including on the Internet.
Just a year later, however, nine-year-old Amber Hagerman was riding her bike near her home in Arlington, Texas, singing America The Beautiful, when a man in a truck snatched her.
Four days later, her body was found in a ditch, her throat cut.
Concerned citizens again responded, helping set up the Amber Alert, in which Americans nationwide are informed over TV and radio whenever a child is abducted.
The system has helped recover 198 children since it was established, according to Mr Jim Libonati of the National Centre For Missing & Exploited Children.
Still, neither effort saved Jessica or Jetseta, and many Americans are now taking a harder look at their legal system.
An alert on the Congress.org website noted that while Jessica and Jetseta were being murdered, most politicians were focused on the case of the court-ordered removal of a feeding tube from the brain-damaged Mrs Terri Schiavo.
It pointed out that, unlike in the Schiavo case, there had been no special legislative sessions or emergency convening of Congress or state politicians for either girl. It urged Congress: 'Please strongly consider immediately discussing legislation that will allow for stricter sentencing guidelines, and monitoring of sexual offenders.'
Congressman Ginny Brown-Waite presented a proposal last week for new federal sex offender legislation named for yet another victim, the Jessica Lunsford Act. Yet what's still not getting enough attention is making sure that justice is done right from the start.
That was highlighted recently here in Cleveland.
Despite considerable evidence against him, a jury acquitted Mr Daniel Hines, 26, of the rape, murder and dismemberment of 11-year-old Shakira Johnson.
After three days of deliberations the jury asked the judge for a definition of 'reasonable doubt' - American juries are told by courts they cannot convict a person if they have such a doubt.
Last month, he was put on trial again, this time for trying to rape his 13-year-old cousin. The court heard that when her brother and a friend, Marine Private Brandon Sloan, tried to stop him, he attacked them.
Pte Sloan confirmed all that in court. But after 12 hours of deliberations, the judge declared a hung jury.
Mr Hines was cleared again.
Thursday, April 14, 2005
Dakota by the Stereophonics.....
Thinking about thinking of you
Some of the time thinking it was due
Yeah thinking it was due.
Laying back, head on the grass
Children grown having some laughs
Yeah having some laughs.
Made me feel like the one
Made me feel like the one
The one
Made me feel like the one
Made me feel like the one
The one
Drinking back, drinking for two
Drinking with you
And drinking was new
Sleeping in the back of my car
Never went far
Needed to go far
Made me feel like the one
Made me feel like the one
The one
Made me feel like the one
Made me feel like the one
The one
I don’t know where we are going no
I don’t know where we are going no
Wake up for coffee and juice
Remembering you
What happened to you?
I wonder if we’ll meet again
Talk about us instead
Talk about why did it end
Made me feel like the one
Made me feel like the one
The one
Made me feel like the one
Made me feel like the one
The one
I don’t know where we are going no
I don’t know where we are going no
So take a look at me now
Some of the time thinking it was due
Yeah thinking it was due.
Laying back, head on the grass
Children grown having some laughs
Yeah having some laughs.
Made me feel like the one
Made me feel like the one
The one
Made me feel like the one
Made me feel like the one
The one
Drinking back, drinking for two
Drinking with you
And drinking was new
Sleeping in the back of my car
Never went far
Needed to go far
Made me feel like the one
Made me feel like the one
The one
Made me feel like the one
Made me feel like the one
The one
I don’t know where we are going no
I don’t know where we are going no
Wake up for coffee and juice
Remembering you
What happened to you?
I wonder if we’ll meet again
Talk about us instead
Talk about why did it end
Made me feel like the one
Made me feel like the one
The one
Made me feel like the one
Made me feel like the one
The one
I don’t know where we are going no
I don’t know where we are going no
So take a look at me now
i dunno y....
i dunno y but i seriously dislike her!!!! every little thing she does i find it irritating....i try my v best not 2 show my feelings but still i get frustrated wif her....shoot.....does it help tt i know others r equally frustrated wif her??? no it doesn't actually....i feel a little pang o sympathy 4 her but still i cannot help myself fr disliking her......& wondering always y she does e things she does....y y y.....it doesn't make me feel any beta tt others show their displeasure more explicitly than me.....still i hope she can buck up!!!!! pls!!!! 4 ur own sake & 4 every1 working wif u pls pls pls pull up ur socks!!!!!
many many things happened....
many many things happened during e past few days & i'm not even begining 2 comprehend wat is gg on....
my tkd grading was over....butterflies in e stomach as usu b4 e grading....but in e end all was well....results shld b known in 2 wks time.....
i held his hand 1st cos he was obviously shy 2 do it.....so i held his hand.....i bet he was shocked!!! i didn't know y i held his hand.....juz felt like it i guess.....
we talked abt little little things....but obviously he wasn't warmed up after e movie where i sprung a surprise attack on his hand....but gradually as we shopped ard he started 2 b more relaxed.....
he knew i was nervous abt my grading.....he offered 2 accompany me 2 e stadium e next day....i didn't 1 him 2 watch me do my grading so i tok him not 2....he insisted tt he was gg there 2 return sme stuff 2 a friend who was there 2 do grading 2.....so we made e trip 2gather....sweet o him....
i made him leave e stadium once i reached & he had returned his stuff 2 his friend....but yes he didn't go....i didn't know abt it until much later in e day.....
went 4 my dragonboat trg after my grading....been a long long time since i've last went 4 trg.....still aching now....
when i reached home, i was so tired....but he sms me tt he had smething 2 say 2 me once i reached home....so i smsed him....
his sms read: "i luv u....."
i was really stunned & speechlesss.....i dunno how 2 reply.....it was seriously a little 2 fast ain't it??? when i didn't reply, he smsed me:"so do u have anything 2 say 2 me???"
i was seriously speechless & totally numb....not sure if it's cos i was so stoned after a full day o activity.....
i dun remember e exact msg tt i smsed him....but i told him tt it was sweet & tt i was totally numb.....
after a few smses later, i smsed him:" is it weird tt i feel like seeing u now?".....
cos i seriously 1ed 2 look at him when he said wat he said....
a few other smses later, i was really tired & told him tt i was gg 2 bed....he was oredi on his way 2 my place!!! so i waited 4 him.....
when i met him....e 1st thing he said was:"i dunno y i'm here....but i'm here....".... i sort o melted at tt moment....he was blushing, i'm not sure if it was cos he rushed 2 my place or cos he was shy....it was probably a combination o both.....
e worst part o e mtg was my sis saw us.....& knowing her KP character, every1 in my family know tt i was holding sme guy's hand......i cant say my family's not close, but i've yet 2 make head & tail out o tis whole situation so i didn't 1 2 announce 2 e world tt there's tis cute young boy tt i'm c-ing.....
& i seriously dun tink they wld understd y i wld c sme1 so much younger than me....much younger than my youngest sis even!!!
anyway, i tink i'll start tinking abt it when he comes bk fr m'sia & when he has finished his exams.....4 now....i know tt i like him.....tt's abt wat i can say.....
my tkd grading was over....butterflies in e stomach as usu b4 e grading....but in e end all was well....results shld b known in 2 wks time.....
i held his hand 1st cos he was obviously shy 2 do it.....so i held his hand.....i bet he was shocked!!! i didn't know y i held his hand.....juz felt like it i guess.....
we talked abt little little things....but obviously he wasn't warmed up after e movie where i sprung a surprise attack on his hand....but gradually as we shopped ard he started 2 b more relaxed.....
he knew i was nervous abt my grading.....he offered 2 accompany me 2 e stadium e next day....i didn't 1 him 2 watch me do my grading so i tok him not 2....he insisted tt he was gg there 2 return sme stuff 2 a friend who was there 2 do grading 2.....so we made e trip 2gather....sweet o him....
i made him leave e stadium once i reached & he had returned his stuff 2 his friend....but yes he didn't go....i didn't know abt it until much later in e day.....
went 4 my dragonboat trg after my grading....been a long long time since i've last went 4 trg.....still aching now....
when i reached home, i was so tired....but he sms me tt he had smething 2 say 2 me once i reached home....so i smsed him....
his sms read: "i luv u....."
i was really stunned & speechlesss.....i dunno how 2 reply.....it was seriously a little 2 fast ain't it??? when i didn't reply, he smsed me:"so do u have anything 2 say 2 me???"
i was seriously speechless & totally numb....not sure if it's cos i was so stoned after a full day o activity.....
i dun remember e exact msg tt i smsed him....but i told him tt it was sweet & tt i was totally numb.....
after a few smses later, i smsed him:" is it weird tt i feel like seeing u now?".....
cos i seriously 1ed 2 look at him when he said wat he said....
a few other smses later, i was really tired & told him tt i was gg 2 bed....he was oredi on his way 2 my place!!! so i waited 4 him.....
when i met him....e 1st thing he said was:"i dunno y i'm here....but i'm here....".... i sort o melted at tt moment....he was blushing, i'm not sure if it was cos he rushed 2 my place or cos he was shy....it was probably a combination o both.....
e worst part o e mtg was my sis saw us.....& knowing her KP character, every1 in my family know tt i was holding sme guy's hand......i cant say my family's not close, but i've yet 2 make head & tail out o tis whole situation so i didn't 1 2 announce 2 e world tt there's tis cute young boy tt i'm c-ing.....
& i seriously dun tink they wld understd y i wld c sme1 so much younger than me....much younger than my youngest sis even!!!
anyway, i tink i'll start tinking abt it when he comes bk fr m'sia & when he has finished his exams.....4 now....i know tt i like him.....tt's abt wat i can say.....
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